Ok, not sure if this is going 2 work as its my 1st time on this site ( fingers crossed! )

Right, basically my problem is this...

I have been with my girlfriend for for just under 5 years. We lived together at my mums house, which as u can imagine was fairly difficult..i mean they got on ok, but its not like we had our own space really! Pretty much since we got together all she wanted was for us to move out and be on our own! For the 1st 2 yrs of our relationship i didnt have a job as i suffered from social anxiety and found it difficult being around ppl and social situations, but eventually plucked up the courage to a get a job. I had a job that was only working night for one day a week, but i thought it was a big stepping stone for me, as i had been out of work 5 yrs in total! She always wanted me 2 hurry up and get full time hours so we could hurry up n move out, although it wasnt that easy to just do! Anyways, getting to the point, i finally found myself a full time job!

Now, in September she went on holiday for 2 weeks with her mum and sisters to spain, she rang me everyday sayin that she missed me bla bla. I was invited to go with them, but although me and my gf were together along time, i never really spent any time with her family ( cos of my social phobia ) I know it sounds like an excuse, but i was just so nervous about being around them! Although she had major problems with me not going down to see them, she was fairly close to them!

Anyways, she come home from spain, came back to my mums ( where she lived ) and she was being all weird with me, i thought it was just shyness, but wen i asked her if everything was ok, she broke down and told me she couldnt stay here anymore ( at my mums ) She said she needed time and space to sort her head out. She packed up alllllll of her stuff, and left for her mums. That night she texted me and said " i still want a relationship with you, but i just cant stay at ur mums nomore" i said that she contridicted everything she said previously as she said it was space she needed. This went back and forth for a while, untill i said, look, u wanted space, im going to give u space, dnt contact me untill u figue out what it is u want. A day and a half later, she calls to see if im ok etc etc and it was then left as, we will b friends, see each other once a week without me pressuring her about anything ( although it was bloody hard )
I saw her once a week over the month, i took her 2 the cinema, watched films, went out to dinner, everything i could do to make it nice for her. Then on Saturday, i was getting ready to go out, and i foned her to say ello ect etc and just asked if she had thougt nemore about our situation, and she told me, " i love u, but dnt think i am in love wit u nemore" This is now the 3rd day of us not talking and to be honest, i dnt really know what to do with myself...i said to her i cudnt ave contact with her if there is no chance of us gettin back together, she wanted us 2 remain friends, but from what i read on this site, its not a gud idea to do that!

Call me niave but i honestly dnt belive she cheated on me whilst on holiday, but wen she went away it seemed to ave changed her outlook on life, she said she wanted to do more things, but whilst we were together it was always her who didnt want to get out of bed as she was always to tired with the hours she works!

To be honest, i dnt really know what i expect anyone 2 say about this?!
I feel like im living in hope of her realizing shes made the wrong decision, i am unsure of how to "move on" as shes been such a major part of my life and is my 1st relationship. Can anyone make any sence out of this?

Farmer Lou

O.K. the following is advice from me, a woman, who has some experience trying to hold on to something that isn't working. I think perhaps your girlfriend wanting to do more things in life means this: From working long hours and missing out on having the time and energy for these things, she has probably came to the end of her rope. She has been very understanding of your condition and gave you plenty of time to get help and make a future for the two of you. What do you expect of her, work and socialize by herself but still be your partner? If you were truly wanting to make this thing work I think you would of saught help and bagan working on your issues long ago instead of using them as an excuse. She has decided to move on, the sooner you do the better for you both. Learn from the experience and change from it.