I cannot stand my boyfriend's insufferable (girl) friend.
Asked May 23, 2012, 02:18 PM
I realize a lot of women may have similar problem, and it does help knowing that I am not the only woman who cannot stand her boyfriend's (girl) friend. To provide a brief history, I was BFF with this girl friend for nearly 3 years because we worked together. I even introduced my bf to her and her husband. My bf and I ended up living together for two years but he received a job promotion and had to move out of state. He didn't ask me to go with him. I was heartbroken.
To keep this real short, I was going to move out there to be with him because a few months later we had talked and agreed that I would move to be with him. He had asked me if there was anything else I need to tell him, and I said no. I didn't tell him I had already quit my job beause I figured I could tell him at a later time, since we just spent two hours on the phone discussing my move. After speaking to him, I called my BFF and told her I was moving and she didn't sound happy for me at all. I also (made the mistake) of telling her that I haven't told my bf that I had already quit my job. I specifically asked her to not say anything. What ing happens?! Yep, later that night, I got a text message from my bf saying to call him tomorrow morning. I called, and he said he didn't feel I was being honest with him because I didn't tell him I had quit my job so he told me to not move.
I was very upset, beacuse I felt my BFF had betrayed me. So, I called her and yelled at her. I was upset. I shouldn't have yelled at her, and she said she didn't tell my bf, that her husband did. So, of course, I got upset at her because she is suppose to be my friend and I told her to mind her own business when it comes to my bf and me. She then, decides to not be my friend anymore.
Flash forward six years. My ex-bf moves back to the same state as me and he ends up living with this ***** and her husband for maybe like a year. He writes me this apology letter saying how he screwed up and he wants to start seeing me again. I really considered this because I knew by allowing him back into my life, I knew I would have to deal with this . But, I disregarded my inner voice, and decided to give this relationship one more shot because I felt like there was unfinished business between him and me. So, out of my love and respect for my boyfriend, I write an apology letter to this broad. I
nstead of accepting my apology like a grown up person would do, she responds saying how I've always been jealous of her and when I called her up screaming and yelling she wanted to drive to my house to kick my !
I showed my boyfriend our email exchanges. He was bothered by it but a few months goes by and he still hangs out with her at work. He decided to quit smoking and I had asked him to stop taking break walks with this . He fought me on this issue, and we actually ended up breaking up again. By this time, we were living together once again. He thought I was trying to control him, when all I was asking for was just a little ing consideration for my feelings and support me, by limiting his contact with this ******.
So, after we cooled off for a month, we decided to try couple's counseling. It was working for a while because he did limit his break times with her at work; but later he tells me that he is not happy about it. She is married to his best friend, and my boyfriend considers her as his own "family". When my boyfriend stood up to her for me when she wrote that threatening email, she stopped talking to him for a month! It's almost like she is in a relationship with my bf.
Unfortunately, I don't know how long I can stand his friendship with her and it is causing a strain in my relationship with my bf. I do not understand why he wants to support a "friend" who is openly disrespectful towards me, who even threatened physical harm to me. He maintains that they are just friends and she is like a sister to him. However, I cannot stand how she would buy my bf gifts that no one is asking her to buy. My bf and I recently got a new puppy, and this is out buying stuff for the puppy to give to my bf. How f*king disrespectful is that? I am just not ok with how she can disrespect me, be mean and rude towards me, and expects to still be friends with my bf. And my bf, still being friends with her. What about my feelings here....do they not f*king matter?