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I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months, and we're pretty serious. I know it's cliche, but I've never felt this way about a girl before, and she's said the same to me. We both said 'those three words' to eachother about a month in, and now we're talking about marriage and starting a family!!!
I know that I want to be with her for the rest of my life, and that I do love her deeply, but I'm only 20 and she's 21 - it worries me that we're too young to fall in love this way. What do yo think?
First off, forget the age. It's waaaaaaaaaaaaaay, WAY too early to even think about starting a family together, much less marriage. You two barely know each other after 3 months. You don't know a person in their entirety just because you spend all of your time with them. On top of that, it is very easy to confuse lust with love, know what I mean? The two of you should be willing to add in some patience and care.
I suggest you start taking it slower before the two of you get any more serious than you already have. Think about it this way: If you want long lasting results, you need long lasting patience and commitment from EACH of you. If you suggest it or she suggests it and conflict arises over 'waiting' or prolonging marriage and a family, then it simply won't work between the two of you.
I can't begin to tell you how fatal going too fast almost always is. The foundation to love really does take time to build, time and lots and lots and lots of experiences with each other. So you know each other in the worst ways imaginable and have survived great stressors together. Three months is but one breath's worth. Desperation diguises itself in words exactly like yours so prove it wrong by slowing way way down. Enjoy that you have said the words and felt the feelings but mutually agree to set some of it aside for now (suspend talk of marriage and family and plans like that for later, next year even or five) and grow into your relationship.
3 months and you talking about marriage.
You are both going through the lust stage where everything seems rosey, well it may be, but 3 months!!!!
WAY TOOOOO EARLY, i dont necissarly mean the age, but 3 months, theres still lots of getting to know one another stages.
Enjoy it.. dont rush into anything, especially as all is going great between you.
Marriage is a full commitment.
Enjoy your relationship together, have fun, get to know each other through and through, there's no rush, now is there?
I don't think it's necessarily that you are too young, but more that your relationship is too young. Its only been 3 months. That's not nearly enough time to learn someone's true self and to see if you are truly compatible. I would say wait at least another year. If you are still together and feeling the same way, then maybe think about marriage.
Sgn1985-You may think marriage is a good idea now, but hold off 3 more months and see how you feel when the lust is gone. Is sex still hot and does the earth still move. Is her breath still like perfume in the morning, is life still lovely, or is she turned off by your hygiene now. Things will change and if this is real you should give it a chance to grow and mature while you two nurture this relationship. Take the time and care to do this right and you'll have something. Rush thru and hope it works will be a disaster. Slowly build things and they have a chance to last. Slow this train down and enjoy the ride.
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