Is this right?

lovelyeyes · #1 Oct 3, 2007, 09:56 AM

Ok my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and a half. We have a 2 year old daughter together. Things were going great for a couple of months into the relationship. Now he acts distant, doesn't really want to spend time with us and more importantly my gut is telling me something is not right. He says he loves me....only after I bring it up. Now he is going to meet up with some friends for the weekend and wouldn't you know it he didn't even invite me. I felt he was counting on me staying home with our daughter and couldn't get a babysitter. I feel like I am ready to call it quits but I am scared b/c I know he will not try to stop me. So what ever decision I make I know I have to choose carefully. I skipped over a lot of other information but the jist of it is he is still in touch with previous booty calls...I am his 2nd girlfriend...at least that he admits to. He says that there may have been a few he felt something for but for whatever reason it did not work out. My question is where do I and our daughter fit in?????? Any takers???

ConfusedandLost · Oct 3, 2007, 07:59 PM

A couple of questions: How old are the two of you? Are you living together or separately? Your daughter is 2 but you two have been together for only 1.5 years.....what happened in those 6 months?

Based on what you have written, I would think that he is not ready to commit to a full on relationship. He is most likely messing around behind the scenes, which is bothering him in some way. He is being distant because of that and is probably looking for a doorway out. Reality is knocking at his door right now and he is not liking it at all........

I would sit down and have a serious conversation with him. It is best to try and find out now for the sake of your child. Inform him of your expectations of a healthy caring relationship, see if he can provide you with those. If he can't and is a lieing cheater......start taking the measures needed to end this turmoil and move on.

nkychic · Oct 3, 2007, 08:07 PM

I agree with Confused. You have a daughter, so all of your decisions (and his) should center around that child. Sit him down. Tell him what you and your daughter need out of the relationship and see what his reply is. Don't hang around for him to change, if he is cheating, leave now. Again...you live for her now. You do what it takes to give that little angel a happy and full life, and remember that she KNOWS when mommy and/or daddy are stressed or mad. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!

<3 Leslie



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