Hi all,

I went through a very bad situation recently, where my girlfriend betrayed me after being with me for a year and saying all the time that she loves me. She wrote me tons and tons of emails saying the same, but few months ago, she started talking to another guy about a relationship and she didn't tell me about this. When I came to know about this, I was all mad and heart-broken and then she stopped talking to me after that.. I wanted to know from her why she did this to me, and why she didn't tell me if things weren't working about between us.. Why she kept me in dark and started going out with someone else.. I had so many questions, but she wasn't willing to meet or pick up her phone. But I keep bumping onto her as we have common friends. But I never ask her anything in front of our common friends, but we do not talk at all so our friends do know that something has happened between us.. Now about 4 weeks ago, I called her like 8-9 times on her cell on one particular day and left a few voice messages that I just want to talk to her.. I wanted to ask her why she did this to me.. But she didn't pick up the phone, and on next day she sent me an email on my work id that if I do not stop following her or calling her, she will take legal actions against me. I was really shocked by reading this email, as I couldn't believe that she could do something like this.. But on that same day, her current boyfriend called one of our common friend as he to happens to know that friend, and he told him that this is the last warning and they have already consulted a lawyer and have all the proofs that this can be a case of stalking and I can go to jail if they take action. The common friend spoke to me about this, and advised not to contact her anymore, and I told him that I will not..

But I couldn't just forget what she did to me, and really needed answer as to why she kept me in dark, and what was her purpose of keeping me in side and saying that she loves me, even when she already started going out with someone else.. So I just sent her boyfriend an email saying that I want to meet both of them just once and ask them a few things.. I did not email her directly as I thought that she might take that email as a proof that I am stalking her and take action against me. But her boyfriend replied to me saying that they do not want to meet me.. Now last week, I came to know from our common friend that they are actually planning to take action legal action against me, and he also told me that they might use some wrong ways and forge emails using my name and send it to her and then try to prove that I am still following her and stalking her.. I am really confused on this situation, and am not sure if this can be used as a point against me. I mean, if they create an email id using my name and send her an email, and then they go to a lawyer/court, can this be considered a proof that I am harassing her or stalking her. If this can be done, then should I also consult a lawyer just to be safe, as I do not want police to come to my house and arrest me even for a min, as this will spoil my reputation among friends and also ruin my career.

I really need some advice on this, as I have to decide on whether to go to a lawyer or not. Also, I still have kept all the emails that she wrote to me, also the one's she sent on my work id, as in case if they take any action against me, I can at-least show those emails saying that how that girl betrayed me..

Thanks in advance for the help..

OK they are morons... sorry to say but don't worry about it. No legal action is going to be taken against you. Just leave them alone, this girl is obviously not worth your time. Let them have each other, and let them live in their immature ignorant bliss.

What you mentioned is not enough to build a legal case, no lawyer would ever take that seriously. And if they made an e-mail account for you an IP address will be logged for the computer that accessed the account, an IP address to a computer that is not yours.

Really, please don't contact them anymore, the fact that they are saying this is ridiculous and made me chuckle. You're better than this my friend, you'll meet someone worth your time one day.

Hi NorthernNiceGuy,

Thanks a lot for your reply and help. As I mentioned earlier, I have not contacted that girl for over a month now, and I mean no contact by any means (no phone calls, no emails).. but I did send an email to her current boyfriend recently as I mentioned, so even if they do not try to forge email using my name, can they still take a legal action against me based on the email that I sent to her boyfriend, as that email definitely was written by me using my computer, and so the IP address to the computer will be mine.

This girl herself is trying to create bad impression of me amongst our common friends, as most of our common friends keep asking her what happened between you guys, and she just tells them that I am getting engaged to another girl by ditching her, so something else. I am tired to telling my friends the truth, and no longer want to do that.. I definitely am not able to forget her, and more importantly, not able to forget what she did to me using the name of love.. but I hope that GOD gives me strength to get out of this situation soon..

Yea still don't worry about it though buddy. One e-mail to her boyfriend isn't enough to make a case. They are just causing trouble and working everybody up. Just continue with the no contact and the situation will disappear. They are just doing this to put you down and make you look bad to everyone.

You have no power over her to impel a meeting. Your need to ask these questions of her is silly. You need to get ahold of yourself. Its over, the reasons from her end are irrelevant.

She was shifty and dishonest. She lied to protect herself. It was all about her. She could act this way BECAUSE SHE COULD. You need HER to tell you what you already know? No, you don't. You just want an opportunity to REALLY let her know how much she screwed up and hurt you.

Hey, guess what? She doesn't CARE.

She and her new boyfriend use your emails and phone messages as laugh tracks for their new relationship. They get to say whatever they want to whomever they want.

They are getting on with their amoral lives while you are wallowing in "woe as me". You are wasting no one's time but your own.

There will be no lawsuit, but every thought and consideration you continue to have with her name on it is the same as you thrashing your own back. They won't need to punish you, so far you seem intent on doing to yourself for quite some time.

It's over, she sucked, she sucks, you're right, now move on.