yesterday i found out the guy i have been in love with, unconditionally, no matter how bad he treated me, for a year.....this whole time has been in love with someone else.
and cheated on me.
and lied to me over and over.
i feel so humilliated.
i cant stop crying and the pain i am feeling is the worst iv ever felt.
i need help.
i told him i cant have him in my life ever again.
i tried so hard to explain to him why i was doing this.
and he acted like he didnt care.
he said he's done nothing wrong. but he's been in love with someone else!!!!!!!!!! i cant get over it. it hurts so much
i am broken.
i dont know what to do with myself.
someone please, has anyone been in this situation before?
tearingapart...no honey hes not over you,he just has a different way of coping, that is just what
guys do.
Women sit home and men go out and drink and hook up. And yes there is always some somin there to take the pain away.But it doesn't really.
I have two grown sons 28 and 22 and we talk all the time so I get what he is doing. They tell me men do that to feel like a man again.
His poor ego is so shattered that he needs to hook up but inside hes not over anything. He is just a typical man trying to make himself feel good and boost his ego
I bet if he has any decency in him he is hurting too.
Sounds lame but I bet that feels kinda good to know that.
My bad again.
I Can only imagine how diffcult it is for you right now- it is v hard , i know. The best thingto do right now- is to get some rest and eat well. Then you can think straight and deal with your situation in a better way. Please keep talking on this post as there are many many people who will help you get thru this.
It is v horrible when one finds out when a person you love cheats and lies thru and thru- please read my post! i am going thru a similar thing and i hope it will give you strength to be brave when you have to be brave and to cry when you have to cry.
Take care of yourself and remember you are worth alot more than you think.
In life your going have many relationships. Some will last and some won't. But if it doesn't last you don't let it break you. You pick your up and try again. There is a rainbow after every storm. This guy wasn't a match for you, in fact he was a game player, don't worry you can do better and will find better because your better than this.
You know what helped me during a break-up was Athrea Franklin "I will survive" song. Play it and listen to the words. It gave me alot of strength and helped me through my pain. Also, remember what don't kill you will only make you stronger so pull yourself together. You might not see it now but when you heal your going reflect on your relationship with him and see how better out you was without him.
For all the pain your going thru now, when it does get better, after you have healed, you'll be smarter and wont give your unconditional love to a guy that cheats. This is just a hard lesson of life we have to go thru, we all do, so your not alone.
oh sweety! i feel so bad for you but he wasnt the one. dont blame ursel...it wasnt you it was him. in my opinion you desirve more then him. you seem to be a nice and caring person and for him to treat you like crap....that aint right...so give it time you will heal :] dont stay thinking about him...go out with friends , talk to someone and have fun. sooner then later you will forget him and find someone so nice that he will love you too ! have faith
Happiness is a door that constantly opens and closes. The problem is that when the happiness door closes we look at it too long, and don't see the other happiness doors that are opening right in front of our eyes. I understand that you are very hurt and in a lot of pain, but look away from the closed door and look at all of the other doors that are opening up. Look at everything that you have to be grateful for, and you'll find your happiness.
I assume by the wording that this guy has not been exactly great to you in the year you have been together.
Firstly now you know how he no longer wishes to be with you as has told you he is in love with someone else. Maybe he is in love with someone else if true then he is a toad for leading you along , knowing he never truely loved you. Maybe there is nobody else and he is usuing this as an excuse to break up.Either way hun you deserve so much better.
I have been in your situation where I was treadted very badly and cheated on very often.
Yes it hurts , it is going to hurt for weeks to come but at the end of it you will come out a much stronger person for it.
Do not sit at home and waste your tears , get together with friends and start doing those things you have always wanted to do. Make yourself get up and plan each day so you are busy even just doing the houswork! Anything to keep your mind from going back to him.
Easier said than done but resist the temptation to phone/text him.
The sweetest revenge is to show him you are much happier without him! Keep Smiling !
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