Hi, brief intro, met a great girl on holiday and have have seen each other now three times. We often have some form of contact whether its, text messages, instant messenging online and more rarely by telephone to.

We live about 2-3 hours away, traffic dependant! Anyway, we enjoy each others company and really get on well. I get excited when the thought of her coming up to see me, and me going down to see her. Although, quite affectionate, I in no means act a wuss boy, to clingy etc etc and have not given to much away in regards to feelings, although any girl would or should pick up on the Cock and funny jibes I throw in her direction.

Im just curious on how others have got on with a situation not to different from my own.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks

rkim291968

Me and my gf (now my wife of 19 years) dated for a year when we lived about 350 miles apart. We met 1 - 3 times a month, mostly on weekends, used phone calls, letter. This worked fine. So, if there is a strong desire, you can certainly do it.

In fact, it may work for you better. 2 - 3 hours distance is enough to prevent you two from meeting too often and wearing out the relationship prematurely.

Go for it.

Wildcat21

They rarely work. Trust - trsut always fails.

Go to this site and read the free articles on how to survive a LDR - www.lovetactics.com

ShadyDealer

Thanks for quick replies folks. I can see both sides to the what both of you are saying! This is where im at a cross roads with where to go next. I wouldnt say trust was a major issue with me anmore than what it would be with her, (i dont think)

Although Im only just kinda finding my game as such, ive been doing pretty well at just leaning back ans taking things as they come. Guess its now a little different now ive found someone who I think is great. Not that id ever mess birds about, ive just been far more laid back, to much so in many cases and its been me thats pushed them away.

Out of interest, would you say a woman finds it harder to trust a male than a male trusting a female?

Ps, thanks rkim291968 for the slightly more positve reply!

Jesushelper76

It is good for a certain amount of time. At the same time though if anything is going to happen and things are going to eventually work out. Somebody needs to come closer to the other one. At some point if things are going really good but know one is making a move to get closer then one or both will eventually get tired of it and want to make a change. Eigher by seeing each other more by becoming closer or calling it off.

ShadyDealer

Im thinking its not an easy question to answer and every circumstance is different. An interesting answer Jesushelper76, thanks.

Wildcat21

"Out of interest, would you say a woman finds it harder to trust a male than a male trusting a female?" Goes both ways - depends who has the power - who's MORE needy.

Don't be needy - be busy - don'tcall and e-mail every day early on.

You start 'acting' needy and they will run. Patinece is key!!!!!

ShadyDealer

Oh I totaly agree on the keep yourself busy sorta thing. I often leave it for her to get in to contact with me in some form. Even when she does, its often hours before i'll text message her back. So long infact shes told me it irritates her! Which is only a good thing as far as I can see.

At this stage, its difficult to say who has the power....its been a kinda swings and rounds abouts game. Another darn good answer though. Never thought about whos got the power ....

Wildcat21

GOOD! Managing the communications is key - there is no reason to ALWAYS answer calls and return text right away - she'll love you for it!!!! BE A CHALLENGE!!!! Don't be a door mat.

valinors_sorrow

Well, you took the words right out of my mouth AND answered your own question. Bravo!

I have had only what some might reckon is kin to a "long distance marriage" being married to a long haul trucker. Now there's a different arrangement altogether! I don't think however all that much is different about your type or my type really.... just as Rkim proves. I like to make people laugh when they ask what's the biggest difference I can see by telling them a truth actually: we have learned to fight fast! LOL

I disagree with Wildcat (not the first time either ) on this one about the trust issues -- IF those are there, distance or not, the relationship has a tough hill to climb. The minor amount of added bad mojo distance puts to trust issues is neglible or someone may be doing a bit of a "duck responsibility by exaggeration" dance there blaming distance too heavily.

The bottom line is NOBODY can predict a relationship outcome since even the most impossible have made it and the most secure failed. Such is the human condition.

I am in with Rkim - have a go!