My bf broke up with my last wk after 9mos because we were fighting alot and he was getting very stressed out. We were very much in love with eachother which made it hurt alot more. We did argue alot and i think its because we just didnt give eachother any space. So now we have split & i am devastated. i was going to send him a picture in the mail ( a pic i took of him with his nieces/nephews) and i wanted to attach a small note saying i missed him etc. i dont know if i should say that i want another chance? i dont know how long to wait to send it..
people keep giving me mixed opinions..some say move on, 4get about him, or act cool like you happy without him, or bare your soul...I want to get my point across without scaring him off..i am goin to send the letter so Im not asking if i should, im just wondering the proper way to do it..HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by the way..dont know if this helps but hes 42 & Im 26 thats why i dont know if i should be playing headgames with him
That could be part of the problem. Not to say age matters but he is 42 and your 26. That could be part of the factor. Also who broke up with who? That is very important to know. As far as the picture. You should keep the picture. Obvously you do still want to send the note, no matter what anybody says, but I say keep the picture.
Question, What were you fighting and arguing a lot about? That is the important factor you left out. You want another chanch but does he want another chanch?
He is 42 and you are 26. i think that is a problem. you are in different worlds.
But i wouldnt bare your soul to him. i wouldnt chase him. i would move on. it is over because you werent good for one another. you fought alot. who is going to enjoy that? I wouldnt.
Please understand this. Chasing him, crying, begging, pleading etc WILL NOT WORK. Everyone here will tell you this.
Sending him a picture and a small note WILL NOT WORK. it isnt the movies. it is real life.
You say you are going to send it regardless and want to know the proper way. Well my advice would be there is no proper way because there is now way in this world you should send it. It wont work. I know you will still send it but let me say i think you are making a grave mistake.
Chasing him will only push him further away.
You need to accept that for now it is over and move on. No contact. Work on yourself Be with your friends, your family. Work on yourself. Join a gym, run, work harder at work etc.
Do things to take your mind off the pain.
But dont contact him. it will only make everything worse. and i would let him contact you either. You need to some time alone to think for at least 1 month or 2.
The additional harm that will be caused by sending the note will be to yourself because you will be wanting to get a response that inevitably you wont get. And when that happens you will delve further into your sad and mixed up state.
we are only trying to help.
You came here looking for advice that you wanted to hear and when you didnt get it you threw up the defence shield.
Look, send him the note. bear every little feeling you have in your soul. how much you love him and will so til the day you die. You want him back. you need him desperately in your life.
Tell him your life cant go on with out him and you will never ever get over him. You cant and wont ever be with another man and you will wait for his return til the day you die.
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