can i get her back?

macamoo · #1 Oct 29, 2007, 06:24 AM

Hi , i'm in dire need of some good advice! Can anyone help?
My girlfriend ended our relationship of 2 years , 3 weeks ago. My problem is that i really want to get her back. She is my world and i'm still so incredibly in love with her it hurts!!
She says that she just doesn't love me the way she used to . I'm finding this all harder to comprehend as she still rings and texts every day and comes to see me a few times a week. I've asked her to leave me alone for a little bit so i can sort my self out a lil but she says she cant do that because she cares about me to much.
I just dont know if she really doesnt want me or she just needed a break. I would do anything to have her back , does anyone have any advice??

Any advice would be gratefully appreciated

Marriedguy · Oct 29, 2007, 06:30 AM

Sorry to hear this..I feel for. But I'm missing a big part of the problem why did she break up with you? She just woke up one day and say I dont feel the same way about its over?

statictable · Oct 29, 2007, 06:59 AM

Hi Macammo; As Married guy points out we would like to know the reason for the break up. In the mean time you have described a woman who is not feeling the same as she did earlier in the relationship but she does have your welfare in mind and stays in contact with you to make sure your doing ok. She is a caring woman and I don't think she's playing a game with you. You sound very defeated and maybe depressed. This woman hopes for you to get back on your feet and be strong again. The thought of a new relationship is not important at this time but your health (mental) is very important and she hopes to see that improve. This is a time of opportunity for you, not a time to be immersed in the past. Remember she is a valuable friend so don't waste time hashing over motives. Get yourself back on your feet, you can do that and she knows you can. So many people would be grateful having such a friend. Best wishes.

alicepine · Oct 29, 2007, 07:35 AM

ok so two years and she jus don't love you the same? wow o but she still cares so she comes over? No female you don care. Why? cuz you were thinkin about yourself. If you have been in love for two years and she bust out with not the same anymore she doesn't care. didn't it hurt when she told you that? im positive it did. she knew it would, but she still told you. fine respectable, i'd wanna kno... but why is she still comin over. you love her, but she don't love you the same so its only hurting YOU when you're around her. stop calling and stop coming over. I'd be PISSED. two effin years and you jus don love me the same? you're mind shouldn't be set on how can you get her back. why do you want someone who doesn't want you? ya kno? but love is tough so i recommend if she's that important, keep your life going and fit her into your schedule. she obviously needs to find out if she's jus confused. don up and run if she text you sayin come over. give her time to search herself and see if the love is real but don't hold your breath. go out and do your own thing. but do make time, maybe once or twice a week for her that way she has time with and without you to find out if it's real. as for you, you're leavin the option open for love, but also not forcing it. IF you care about her lik you say, i don't understand why she wouldn't wanna be with you

kuulski · Oct 29, 2007, 08:04 AM

Stop seeing her. She is slowly easing her way out of it. She cant handle NC but its too bad. You dont owe her anything. IF she doesnt want to try to work it out or talk about it. Then cut her off completely. If not this will drag out longer then it needs too.

needofhelp · Oct 29, 2007, 11:33 AM

Agree with kuulski. Go no contact with her, don't let her string you along. She wants to break up, so give it to her. You are in control. If she misses you and wants to talk to you, then that's her problem, a problem she created and she can fix it. You have to move on, and don't talk to her. Continue to talking to her will only make it harder for you as times pass because you will still have some sense of hope and try to sort things out, but the only thing you can do is focus on yourself. It's hard, we've been through it, and want the best for you in the healing process.