Basically me and my now ex girlfriend went out for 6 months, and one time after arguing with her sister and mum, we broke up for no apparent reason, afterwards she would ring and text me, and say that i deserved better etc.

After she spoke to her friends they told her that she was the happist shes ever been with me, and her mum thought she may have depression so we decided to give it another shot, we met up had a chat everything was fine, carrying on texting like nothing happened, made it official we were back together

I seen her last wednesday she cooked me food over at hers and we just did the usual cuddling and whatever else and i left she text me and said she was glad i enjoyed the food, she enjoyed making it and she was happy that we were happy again,

she then text me the following day saying did you know, you have the best cwtches ( cuddles) and I asked her why? and she said " I dunno i just know im safe its so comfy and I love sleeping with you. what we doing this weekend? "

so as she has been haviing a lot of arguments with her mum and sister lately i decided it would be a good idea to take her away from it all and take her to stay in my student house in cardiff, which she got very excited about, and then she text me to say we'd been together six months and I text back saying quick run away,

To which she replied " no running nowhere except cardiff with me xxxx"

she then text me the following day making sure i wanted to go to cardiff and didnt think i had to and she said it will be fun, and she also said " id love to go up for the weekend, come bk sunday and relax in mine monday"

Later that night she went to see her friend who had recently had a baby after a while they decided to leave the baby with her mum so they could have a drink and a catch up, at first she didnt know if she'd be able to make it as she wouldnt have had a lift so to make it easier for her i offered to give her a lift, i text her throughout, asked if she was enjoying to which she replied " yeah cant wait to see you"

Seeing as we just got back i text her asking does she think shes done the right thing and she said yeah ofcourse why?" and i replied and said how do you know, and she said " cos i love you dont you?" to which i replied of course i do

So time went by she text me and asked me to pick her up so i went there to pick her up, i dropped her off she text saying " im happy love you" and then she said " ur fit cant wait to see u, weird thought my sex drive had hone but oomph your hot" asked why it had gone and she said " worrying stress with leah, upset cos i was being mean 2 u"

So then it came to friday the day we were going to Cardiff she woke up text me and we had normal pointless texts then we planned to go to tesco to get food for the weekend, then i went and got her we were getting food then all of a sudden she said I dont know if I want to go now, so I said its ok if she doesnt wanna go we dont have to, then we got the car and she said she didnt wanna be with me anymore.

So I dropped her home and left it at that, and then recieved a text which said " im sorry but its easier for us both if we dont talk for a while sorry" which i left then i got another text which said " really sorry i heart uo, you dont deserve it your worth a million of me, i know you;ll be happy and ive made the right decision, take care"

So i just left it at that then I was over my friends and she text me asking if I was okay, and then I had another texting saying " I know getting over me is getting on with it but going to town and getting slaughtered isnt really the idea" but i said i wasnt even in town and her friend made a mistake

Then she phoned me crying saying that nobody will go out for her birthday I sat down talked to her and calmed her down, and then in the morning I had a text which said " thans for talking to me last night, you didnt have to give me the time of day", which i said was fine, she then rung me spoke to me as if nothing had happened, but ended the conversation by saying ive got to go now, got to keep myself busy.

She later that day text me pointless texts about spraying hairspray all over herself, she then phoned me to see if I was going out in the night which I wasnt and I heard nothing till she text me saying im not going out tomorrow babe.

Then she text saying " dontwanna im going to go out tonight instead even though i dont feel like it" so I asked why? which the reply was " get out the house i feel like .

She then text me later on in the day asking if I was ok, which i replied to saying I was ok-ish, you? which she said " not really u sound good told you youd be happy", and I said Ive had enough of putting on a brave face Im not ok i miss you like crazy and she said thats normal I do too and then she told me she had to make her mum hide her phone so she didnt text me. which i didnt reply too and got the same text again

She then rung me worrying because her friend hadnt phoned her about going out and she thought she was going to be left out but I said dont worry she'll contact you and itll be fine, low and behold her friend contacted her and she text me saying " kirst did txt me i punched myself in the face on your behalf for worrying speak to you soon"

So i just left it made no contact and then when she was out I had a texting saying " miss you" so i replied and said miss you too hows your night? to which she replied ok, then she asked what was i doing and then she said miss you again, then she asked me to come see her later which i agreed too, and she was telling me if shes slow texting back its because theres no signal which i already knew.

Then I had been on msn earlier on and spoke to her sister and her sister must have text her and told her to which i had a text saying msn? ! and then she said i was on msn when i hadnt but had been earlier which I had explained but didnt see the big deal as she wasnt my girlfriend

She text me to say she was going home so i text her and said do you still want me to see you, so she said for me to pick her up from her mates house which is like 5 mintues away from hers, So i got there picked her up and everything was fine we were chatting it was all normal and she told me some guy we know came onto her and asked wheres your boyfriend and she said hes not out tonight, which is a weird respone if you ask me, but we carried on talking and I said I dont know whats going on, and she said what? I said as in us, and she said I just want to be friends, and you could see her eyes filling up but i said you say you miss me and whatever and she said I do, then I dropped her off and hugged her but it wasnt a normal friendly hug she ran her hands all over my back as if we were still together, she then got upset and went.

Sorry if this is long winded but needed to get it all across, I just dont know what to do, i have no real reason why we finished, and if she texts do i text back? do I ignore her?

I really dont know what do its all so confusing, I know she has a lot going on family wise, but do i just give her space and run the risk of her thinking I dont care, theres so many thought running through my head atm

Well basically theres another twist to this whole saga, basically yesterday to get me out of the house my dad gave me money to go to the gym and put petrol in my car, so I wrote on my facebook that I was going to the gym.

I went to the gym none the wiser but while i was there she was speaking to my sister on MSN, asking where I was apparently to just check I was ok, I came home found this out thought nothing of it and went back out just to clear my head and keep busy.

While I was out she continued to talk to my sister, she asked her if I was home yet? If she knew where I was? My sister told her she didnt know and asked why she wanted to know and she said she wanted to speak to me, My sister said she would text me for me to ring her, but my ex said nah its fine ill let him enjoy whatever he's doing.

Then my sister said I'll text him he wont mind, so my ex said just ask where he is cos if hes busy ill leave him be til later, so my sister text and told me to ring her and told my ex, after a while i hadnt rung so my sister asked had I,

So my ex said no give him a chance, So after a bit I rung her asked what she wanted, she said nothing and I said well my sister told me to ring you so must be something, and she said she couldnt understand how I can afford to do what im doing blah de blah, and I said my dad had paid and whatever else she became funny and put the phone down, I rang her back it happened again, I rang her back a 3rd time said look this is why I did this, and she said ok so I said ok ill speak to you soon and she just put the phone down

jolienoire

Stop snooping already it's over. Turn the volume up on your intuition and let it go bro.
It's finito. Done.

This is the time you should be trying to get yourself together emotionally, stop looking for things in which you already knew the answer to. You need to start healing.

l8onjones

I wasnt snooping at her phone bill we both looked at it to sort out the best phone plan for her, i cant believe she can be like this after calling me pathetic the other day because i said i was going to bed and ended up going to tesco for a drive with my mate because he had broken up with his long term girlfriend
and this morning i recieved this text

I have never cheated and if you hadnt rung at that time on that day i wouldnt have been on the phone to him. I think its pathetic that you did all that, shows you werent accusing me because you were secretly checking up on me like you said? im a cheap worthless slut so leave me alone

jolienoire

She is doing the guilt trip, trying to make you feel bad. She called her ownself those things not you. Change your phone number, let her wonder what you are up to, don't even respond trust me. The more you do the more you are pissing her off.

l8onjones

Since all this there has been so much arguing and can not stand it one bit
we now do not speak, she has been telling people i have cheated on her
that i have set girls onto her, that i have given her number and email adress out
that i was meeting another person throughout the relationship

i have asked her to talk about this but she wont, and its killing me
i keep thinking of her with someone else and it tears me apart
i think im fine and over it when im obviously not, i never did cheat or anything
that she says how can i make her see that, and even after all this i still love her
why?

l8onjones

Tonight I got a phone call from the guy i was suspicious of
turns out she is going back to his tonight, so all you guys are right
ive never felt so low ill be honest
shows i meant nothing and the words were hollow

l8onjones

That was a message i sent to her friend after being called god knows what

look i give up ok, everybody has made up their own mind about everything and not even thought to ask me because i must be lying and whatever I dont care what anyone thinks about me anymore, think about it if i was with someone else the whole time i was with jen, do you really think everytime me and her broke up, I would have cared and tried so hard to get her back if I had someone else.

I know exactly what happened and this is what happened and if you choose to believe me or not its up to you.

That jess girl came on msn drunk and talked to Paul and said that I cheated on Jen, Paul then text Jen to tell her and remember how much trouble this jess girl has caused in the past but now jen chooses to believe her funny that

I know exactly what happened no girl came up to Jen in wind st at all, the only time that happened was this friday when my mate was out and saw her holding hands with mike and to be sure it her before he told me he sent his friend over to ask was it jen, while i was on the phone to jen

But im guessing jen forgot the bit where mike had phoned me and asked me what was going on with Jen sitting next to him all the time, and she let him wind me up, and instead of stopping him she just punched him when she said certain things

im not trying to say im an angel in all of this, one time we went through jens phonebill to see why she went over and she had sent things to a number ending in 150 i then had matts cousin emily come onto msn and say look this is his number and it ended in 150, so i said to jen about it and all this started, I didnt go looking for his number at all, do you really think id want to know she was texting him, but ill admit i got it wrong because it was jade's number not his

and i accused her for a very long time after she kissed mike that she was up to all sorts and i know i did that for way to long and about stupid things, so as you see i have done things but nothing i have been accused of.

and one time before i thought she had blocked me on msn so i asked someone to add her to see if she was online yes pathetic i know but there we are

I havent asked anyone to text jen, to threaten jen nothing, whoever has said anything to her has nothing to do with me.

Jen has told people that I cheated on her in the first place of our relationship but we sorted it out and we got back together, that I ask people to add her on facebook so I can see what shes doing, and that I use my friends facebooks to check up on her, lets be honest would i really do all that to see that shes fine without me.

and with the whole sam thing dont even get me started with that, I havent told anyone anything all ive ever said was her ex messed with her head a lot whats so wrong with that, is it not true?

and i tell you what your adamant that the 4 page text is from a girl, ring the number your in for a big suprise

apparently ive talked bad about her for ages..since when? apparently i get people to ring or text if they see jen which is a blatent lie, people have text me and said shes out but not because i asked them too, what am i supposed to do about that, its like jen texting u to say jez is out

Yes my mate david sent her a message on facebook and he had a go at her but he only did what your doing now sticking up for a friend, and i had jen crying on webcam to me telling me that she loved me and how could i be over her so quickly and that she wants to work things out next day it all changed


and last night me and jen had a massive bust up because she decided to tell my little 12 year old sister she was upset because of me, when she didnt need to say anything at all to her

If i had done what im accused of doing then that would be fine but I havent, jen asked me to leave her alone i did, as soon as i do that i have you messaging me on facebook and jade texting me threatening me, and your telling me jen knows nothing about that? well how else would jade get my number, and then jen said about the 4 page text i had nothing to say and she had sent it to me four days in a row, i had nothing to say about it because she said to leave me alone and i asked jen about you emailing and she said she hadnt seen you all weekend

Do you really think I want all this hassle, why would i do all them things when i love jen, but shes taken everyone elses word over mine and so will you too probably after reading this but all i can say is i tried.

l8onjones

And i am trying the no contact rule but she always texts me and says something is up so i ring her, in regards with calls do i just ignore them and texts? or do i hang up so she knows ive seen it?

kctiger

You ignore! This is about you healing...about YOU, not her. She is dead to you. Simple, plain and to the point, you owe her nothing. Her relationship privileges are revoked! Change your number if you have to.

l8onjones

I know this may seem like an odd question but i leave her alone like she says, but then she still texts..why?

kctiger

Because it strokes at her ego to know you will still answer her...cut the food supply off and the people shall starve!