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    katarific05 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 8, 2006, 01:01 AM
    I broke up with him, he got a g/f so, and I miss him.
    I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago because of being stressed and over emotional about some things. I made a mistake. I told him I didn't feel anything anymore, but it was because I was overwhelmed with something's. I really started missing him last week and just realized how much I cared about him. When I thought about calling him I found out he had a g/f- after only a couple of weeks! I know he loved me. I know he did. He would have done anything for me. I called him and made the mistake of crying and telling him I loved him. He first said he still loved me then he said he had to stay with this girl because it was what was best for him. I don't know how he could move on so soon. She has to be a rebound. So he finally got frustrated with me because I asked him if he even still loved me and he told me he didn't want anything to do with me and he didn't want to talk to me for a while. He said he didn't want to be back with me. What do I do?? Is there anything I can do to get him back. I love him sooooooo much and I just cry all the time about it.
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    Oct 8, 2006, 02:46 AM
    U want something you can't have (havent u seen that simpsons episodes) if u can't have it you want it
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    Oct 8, 2006, 06:15 AM
    If he loved you like you say he would still be there, so leave the emotional stuff and drama to the TV shows and try to exercise a lot more self control. No he won't be back, but at least you would have worked on yourself and not drive someone away for lack of regards for their feelings. Move on and work to get better control of your emotions.
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    Oct 8, 2006, 09:37 AM
    I'm no expert but I've beeb though something similar to this. I believe you can call it 'karma'. As bad as that sounds. Just like that other person said ' u want what u can't have now'. I know it hurts and I'm sure u regret things u have done and said. Been there done that. Move on. U will learn from this and this will make you a bigger better person in your next relationship.
    .. I hope all goes well.
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    Oct 8, 2006, 10:52 AM
    What do you do. MOVE ON. You made that decision now that you see that he moved on without you, your jealous. You can not turn back time. Now it is time to leave him be. Do not contact him and just go with the flow.

    Joe
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    Oct 8, 2006, 11:21 AM
    Why did you really push this man away ?
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    Oct 8, 2006, 07:18 PM
    I'm not sure there's really anything you can do to get him back. This new girlfriend may well be a rebound. Keep in mind that you were the one who broke up with him. Every decision has consequences and you've got to be prepared to accept them. I'm not saying you did the wrong thing by breaking up with him but you must now accept the repercussions of that move. At this point, I'd forget about him and just move on. If you keep obsessing about him you're only going to make yourself more and more unhappy.
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    Oct 9, 2006, 12:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago because of being stressed and over emotional about some things. I made a mistake. I told him I didn't feel anything anymore, but it was because I was overwhelmed with somethings. I really started missing him last week and just realized how much I cared about him.
    Obviously he didn’t have the same feelings for you that you had for him. Plus you dumped him. You gave him permission to seek out someone new.

    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    When I thought about calling him I found out he had a g/f- after only a couple of weeks! I know he loved me.
    Mmmm, doubtful. First clue is that he had another girl after a couple of weeks.

    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    I know he did.
    You are wrong.

    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    He would have done anything for me.
    No he wouldn’t.

    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    I called him and made the mistake of crying and telling him i loved him. He first said he still loved me then he said he had to stay with this girl because it was what was best for him. I don't know how he could move on so soon. She has to be a rebound. So he finally got frustrated with me because i asked him if he even still loved me and he told me he didn't want anything to do with me and he didn't want to talk to me for a while. He said he didn't want to be back with me. What do I do???
    Quite honestly, I agree with you that he’s a great guy. He’s being open and honest with you and trying to let you down easily about this new situation. This was after you didn’t give a damn about him and dumped him. Then you kept pushing him so finally he had to draw the line and say quit talking to him. But you dumped him. He didn’t dump you. Why should he give up somebody who has a clean track record for somebody who doesn’t? Why should he go back with you?

    Quote Originally Posted by katarific05
    Is there anything I can do to get him back. I love him sooooooo much and I just cry all the time about it.
    Well the first thing I would do is start respecting his wishes. He has asked you, the girl who dumped him, to leave him alone. You should. If his new relationship doesn’t work out then maybe there will be a chance for you in the future. But from his point of view, why should he take another chance with you? So he can get dumped again? Your going to have to grow as a person so that in the future if the situation arises you can explain to him why and how you’ve changed and how you can prove things will be different. Then maybe he’ll give you a second chance.
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    Oct 9, 2006, 01:13 PM
    You did the breaking - take the consquences. He found someone that actually wanted to be with him.

    Why all the drama in your life. He doesn't want that to happened again - hence he will not ocme back.

    You need to work on you and figure out why you pushed him away - that's not good.

    If he wanted to be with you he would have tried to work on things and fix things in your relationship. He would have tried to get you back.

    You kind are in a fantasy world - you never were in reality - obviously he didn't like you that much.

    He seems like a good, smart guy - he KNOWS there are lots of women out there - if it doesn't work out with you - he moved on. YOU ON THE OTHER HAND TOOK HIM FOR GRANTED. No none wants to be taken for granted.

    I doubt he comes back because you dumped him - life isn't so great o nthe other side of the fence.
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    Oct 9, 2006, 10:00 PM
    If he still loved you then he would come back to you. So chances are he doesn't really mean it. Or at least he thinks he does but doesn't know what love is. If he loved you he would still be yearning for you. But I dare say that once you broke up with him he realised that you probably put him through alor of sh1t with all your emotional problems and that he is better off not having to put up with that.

    Id say move on and work out your mistakes and improve yourself. Work out what you did wrong and learn from it.

    BUT I imagine you are going to keep on trying to get him back. And if you are going to do this then chances are you will push him away further.

    If you can work out all your mistakes and honestly say to yourself that you have changed and improved then you may be able to one day prove it to him. But I doubt so. Id say he is gone for good sorry.

    So now is a time to imrpove yourself.

    Good luck!
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