I am a 24 yr. old still holding the V card. I will be 25 soon and my problem is that, I have NEVER had a boyfriend. I have always been the friend, or well, that's pretty much it. I am tired of waiting for fate. I really don't have friends, I am not into the party scene, so it's hard to meet people. I already graduated school, and I thought I found a possible b/f at my job, but here's teh deal on him... he has a 6 yr old daughter that lives in another state, he's 26 and hangs out with 18 yr old girls, he smokes, drinks heavily,lives with the store manager (our boss) borrows money from me all the time, now he is involved in illegal activities, and he lies ALOT!!! So of course I would not be interested..right??? WRONG!!! I find myself drawn to him. I see that he is insecure and a sad man, he reminds me of me. I know I am too good for him, but I fallen for him. I don't know what to do. He sends me mixed signals, or maybe I just read them wrong. I need help. I want to be happy, but I feel that maybe I am meant to be the friend. My question is, without ever having a boyfriend, and living a very sheltered life, how do I find normailty and a man before I reach 26???

ChihuahuaMomma

DON'T go for that guy. He's just going to drag you down with him, and you are too good for that.

Have you ever tried dating sites? Or perhaps speed dating? Both are pretty fun.

Try going places with a friend that you wouldn't normally go.

Good luck in your endeavors.

talaniman

Desperate people make desperate mistakes. Don't be so desperate. Leave loser boy alone, and get a life that you enjoy, and be happy with who you are, and someone will want to share it with you. If you put time limits on happiness, you run the risk of settling for BS guys, or worse, make a mistake you will regret a long time, so relax and do it right with the right person. It takes time to build a life and make good friends.

ChihuahuaMomma

I totally agree!!!!!!!!!