I broke up with my boyfriend today and feel horrible

I know you feel like you are completely alone right now and that you will never feel good again.... Its almost an unbearable pain, but you are not the only one who has felt it. I am almost at the 1.5 month mark from my break up to a 4 year relationship. I also was the one who ended it (not because I wanted to though... I really didn't) but I had to get out like you, for my own good. You totally did the right thing and you should be extremely proud of yourself for doing what you did. I felt sick to my stomach after it happened, and while I am still not there (still got ways to go) I feel leaps and bounds better than I did in the first week. Just keep telling yourself that it will get easier with time, that you did do the right thing, and YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN! Trust me, almost everyone goes through what you are going through. Read those sticky posts, they help a lot. You are going to be ok, I PROMISE. And whenever you need to talk just get your butt on here and vent. Everyone is here for you and wants to help you. You are not alone!

You will get over it in time so don't don't worry too much. You feeling this way because you had a past and that all he is now, the past. The future will be brighter and your heart will heal in time,give yourself that and your heart will heal. I wish there was a magic portion to make the process easiler, but there's not now. Stick by your decision and what don't kill you makes you stronger.Every day it will be a struggle, a struggle that everyone on here will help you with. Don't listen to sad music or sad movie, try, as hard as it sounds, to stay busy.

It's so hard being a grownup and making choices not based on love alone, isn't it? Remember when we were 15 and love ruled the universe? *sigh*

Anyway, you're so smart to be able to demand a healthy man in the one role in your life that allows him the most influence over you. His problems WILL be your problems, his weaknesses your burden to bear. Knowing NOW what you are willing to live with forever and what you are not is refreshingly mature.

Good for you. You are going to be SO glad someday you did this. Not today, and that's OK. The pain is a sign you're a loving person. But it will subside, love will come again, perhaps several times before "he" arrives.

Enjoy each adventure.

My dear,

You know me well enough by now to notice that I seldom mince words. I personally know a lot about addictions, and am proud that you are mature enough to realize that you don't want to take on this burden.

You have a right to a content life without carrying the garbage of other's who do not want to clean up their lives themselves. In my opinion this shows that you have more strength and you too will get over a relationship not meant for you.

Yes it does hurt, because you shared a lot and you will have your memories. But, you also know that if you stay with him, you will have more bad memories than good - and that serves neither of you.

You made your choice and gave him the opportunity to make his - he can get straight and have an eventful life, or drag himself deeper into ruin - but he has to realize that he has no right to take anyone he claims he loves down with him.

You know we will be here for you any time you need to vent, so don't keep it all to yourself.

You did the right thing honey, and a great big thumbs up to you.


We learn from our mistakes - maybe he'll learn from his.

Hi Plonak,

I am so proud of you! I know you are hurting right now, but honey, you did the absolute right thing. Be proud, and know that one day soon, you will be with someone who you will be totally happy with and who will love and respect you, because you deserve that!

Look your hurting cause you know you love the guy, but what you did was good he needs to learn when enough is enough, and that what he does effects more than just him. "let love go if it comes back its meant to be" that is one of my favorite love qoutes. If he reall why loves you I'm sure he will ship up, everythin will be okay.

Someone very smart once told me that it is the sane one that usually makes the decision to leave a bad relationship. You probably made the correct decision.

The above poster was right; we are not 15 again, where "love" rules everything even making intelligent decisions. But we still do have hearts and thus emotions. Keep busy, be with friends (possibly ones that don't know him) and stay as strong as you can dear.When you are ready there are a lot of great guys out there...guys that have their heads on straight.

Good lock we are pulling for you,
Stringer

Thank you everyone for your words, I can't express how much it helps to have your support.. All of you truly are a God send.

We talked on the phone last night and I guess got more closure. He's in denial I think, he still believes that we are going to be together. I tried to be diserning and tried not to hurt him too much by saying No I'm never getting back with you , I just told him I'm not making any promises.

Yesterday was so hard, any moment I was alone I couldn't stand it. I would cry my eyes out.. I couldn't eat, my stomach wouldn't hold anything down. I went back to my friends house and kept my mind busy

Today I just woke up and really haven't let it sink in yet.. I need that for my well being.. I am going to write a list of things that really bothered me about him and I'm going to look at it when I feel like calling him..

Thanks again guys (sorry so long)

Sounds like you made the right decision, especially with the gambling problem. If you two had kids or something, a gambling problem could have ruined their lives, as well as yours. You made the right decision. Be proud of yourself for making a mature, intelligent decision.

O god... I am 16, and your telling me this gets harder!