I broke up with my boyfriend today and feel horrible

**blush** I'm so sorry. Yes, it get's harder, because when you're older in you're responsible for so much more...your rent, your bills, your taxes, your friendships, being a role model to people younger who are looking up to you...oh my the list gets longer every year.

But that's also the beauty of it. At 16 you get to pass on most of that, and your relationships feel so much more critical since they represent most of what you have going on. That will change, and for the better.

BTW, now that I know you're only 16, I can absolutely promise you you will be deeply in love, probably several times, before your final "it" man arrives. I truly hope you fully enjoy and cherish each experience.

Thanks JB, I know the future relationships I will have will probably just be high school sweetheart kind of things, maybe even shorter, until that final 'it' girl and I will love every relationship. Remember the good times, and forget (but learn from) the bad, right?
Thanks JB

Hey guys,

I feel so horrible right now... I asked him not to contact me becaue it makes it really hard for me.. But he texted me twice last night.. And left a voicemail crying that he misses me.. I don't know what to do! It makes it so hard to hear the pain in his voice.. I feel horrible.

I shouldn't answer the texts right? Because then he's going to learn that it works when he breaks no contact..

Should I just not even read the text message when it comes in? I don't think I could ever do that

When you get a text from him don't open it, delete it.

When he leaves you a voicemail, if your phone tells you the phone number before hand, delete it.

If you read the text and listen to the voicemail its only makes it harder. I know I been through this before, I never heard my ex cry until I ended the relationship and it made me sad and I almost gave in, but I get stronger and start doing the things I told you, eventually I had to change my #.

I might be in the same boat as you because I'm thinking of ending my current relationship with my boyfriend.

Liz is totally right, don't respond at all, and if you can help it don't even read or listen to the messages... I know that's hard, I have tried to do that and failed. But I can tell you it just makes things a million times harder. Just remember, you are going to feel better one day, I promise, keep telling yourself that. NC is the only way to really heal yourself.

Hey guys,

So I deleted my myspace right now, but before I deleted it, I went to save all my pictures (of us two) on my computer and it was torture saving them because I had to click on them in the process of saving them..well I almost lost it.. I think it was too soon to be doing that.. I feel really bad right now

My boyfriend was really good looking.. He was exactly my taste and to me he was perfect in that way .. I'm just worried I'm not going to meet someone again that is as good looking as he was.. My aunt thought he was really hot and I know that when I tell her I broke up with him she's going to make a comment about his looks and everything..

I know this isn't healthy guys, I'm sorry.. I think I went on myspace way too soon.. THIS IS SO FREAKING HARD!

There a lot of cute guys in this world and I hope your just venting and really don't think this. No matter how hot he was look how he treated and how bad of an addiction he have to alcohol. If your aunt places looks over the way he treat you its not a good way of thinking.

Maybe that might be the reason its hard because of his looks, but looks are deciving.

I really just think your venting on the looks part though and remember everyday you take a step forward instead of back. It will be hard and I wish there were a magic portion to make the process faster and smoother, I guess that's only for the movies and cartoons.

Be Strong!

Liz,

Yeah I was just venting.. I'm not that shallow.. I just think he is beautiful and it will take a while for me to get over that.

For his defense he never had an alcohol problem with me. He's been sober for 3 years (before we even knew each other) and he has never been stronger on that part of his life.. He will never relapse with his alcohol..

It was his other behaviors that made it impossible to be with him.. Gambeling, bad spending habits, bad decision making.. That kind of stuff

Hi dear..

You know what you are going through, and you'll probably make a few more 'dumb' moves too soon, but you are human - and we all stumble a little on this path. Just remember where you've been and where you plan on going - and then take one step at a time.

My ex-husband looked like Kevin Costner but he still wound up being a spouse abuser. One wonderful man in my life was shorter than me, red hair and red freckles - not the 'looker' for everyone, but he was SUPER inside. Too bad I realized that too late. So, looks are not everything.

As for the alcohol issue - he might not need that anymore, but he does substitute one crutch for another at a whim, so he does need professional help to get his stuff in order. Again, do not feel guilty for not wanting to be one of his crutches.

Until next time, keep that chin up and stay with us.

I'm going tru the same thing right now ,I know we are done for some reason I can't find the courage to leave(i feel stupid)for saying it but its true.he and his family are all so negative and has change me along the process making me negative too.how to you find the courage to move on .I been with him almost 3 yrs and we also where planning on getting married. I wish you the best I really do and reading what others have wrote to you has made me feel someone better. I need to find your courage withing me.