Girlfriend loves me BUT she doent want to have a relationship with me

Spartan74 · #1 May 24, 2008, 01:49 PM

Hello everyone. I used to live in UK (9 years) but my origins are Greek. I was in a long term relationship (19 months) when I and my girlfriend split up (if you can say that). We had few problems mainly with trust as i caught her being out drinking and flirting. we had our arguments but she promised me that she would stop drinking as it was the main problem. When she was drinking it proved very hard for her to control herself. To add, she never cheated on me but she was acting in a very provacative way even with one of ex. Down the line, she left me without having said anything (i just returned back home and she had taken the majority of her stuff - we were leaving together for 5 months by that time). I called her and she didnt even want to talk to me but she said that she loves me but she doesnt want to be with me because of this trust issue (bear in mind that we went the same through the same situation at least four times - or her attitude and drinking behaviour - despite the promises that it wont happen again). After 2 weeks i decided to return to greece to take a decision about my life as i wasnt happy at all in UK - in all aspects including career. I left and even then she said that i wont be with you even if i love you - in addition she added that she doesnt want to be with anyone else as i am the man of her life. When i went to greece i decided that i'm going to leave UK for good. When i returned after a week i let her know that i'm leaving and it would be nice if she could come and take the remaining of her stuff. We ended up sleeping together for the last four days and she wanted to spent them with me. we carried on communicating over the phone and she carried on saying that she is addicted to me and she solves me and she couldnt be with someelse other than me BUT she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me. after a week she asked to have "radio silence" for a a month. After a month she agreed to come and visit me in Greece because she still loves me but she doesnt want to feel pressurised about us talking about our future (i have already asked her to come and live with me in Greece). The problem is that she is she's getting influenced by her friends and family - especially her sister that we dont have good relations anyway as she things that i dont want her sister to enjoy her life). IN a week time shes coming over to visit me for couple of weeks. The problem is that i still have feelings for her BUT she still insists that she loves me loads but she doesnt want to have a relationship with me (or with anyone else). I really dont know what to do. Would she ever change her mind?? please respond

ka1111 · May 26, 2008, 12:17 AM

Malakismenes gkomenes,theomourles oles tous...

nickshehe · May 26, 2008, 04:32 AM

simfono me ton ka1111 :]
--
I agree with tal..it's like you're dragging a dead corpse along with you that you won't let go of..It's only bringing you more pain and sorrow - just bury it and walk away.

nickshehe · May 26, 2008, 05:29 AM

basic translation to what ka111 said is: women are crazy.
For the other readers on the thread :]



At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you will be able to: Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+ topics. Accept money for answers that you provide. Communicate privately with other members (PM). See fewer ads. Sign Up!