Well I met him 6 months ago and weve been together since then. He is 33 and I'm 23 when we first started talking he to me he was in a relationship but never told me he was married about a month later i get a call from who I think is his girlfried but she lets me know she is married to him and has been for a few years. But that did not stop anything I never asked him about what she said about them being married i guess i was just scared of the truth anyway as the months past we started getting closer hes giving me anything i ask for the only thing is is that we dont get to spend as much time together as i would like. Now i find myself racking my brains out on what i should do now ive heard someone else state he was married so i finally asked him he told me he was and he asked if i wanted him to stop calling me but i told him no because its to late now because my feelings are involed bc now im in love with him. He and his wife a having prob but he is still there not wanting to lose a lot of what he has(well thats what he tells me )but i kinda believe him. So what shall i do? Do you think he will ever leave his wife?

MJ6216

I Hate To Say It But How Dumb Can You Be...i Mean I Was In This Position As Well But I Didnt Talk To His Wife...but You Did And You Still Want To Pursue This...that Is Called A Home Wrecker And If You Read My Post And Listen To What Everyone Said To Me It Makes Sense. Its In The Relationships Section And It Called my Ex Never Told Me He Was Married...but You Need To Nip This In The But Right Now And Get Rid Of Him

J_9

Be prepared for the answers you are going to get here. Have you read the others about being with married men?

No, he is not going to leave his wife, and if he did what makes you think that he will not cheat on yoy? What do you do? Drop him like this scumbag he is.

I really hope they don't have any children.

He is using you for sex and that is all. Yeah, right, he tells you he loves you, he gives you things. You are basically an unpaid call girl. He calls you and you say come over. He has family obligations and you are put aside.

Give it up, you know this is wrong. You know in your heart of hearts that what you are doing is wrong. How would you feel if you were married to the man you love and find out he is screwing some other girl when he is not in bed with you?

Sorry, that was a little harsh, but probably mild compared to the other answers you will get.

rachaelicious

yes, i do think he'll leave his wife, or she'll leave him eventually. however -you don't want to be there when that happens, its going to be very very messy. he's not ready to leave his wife now, and because he's not ready to leave now it means he values her and all that comes with it, such as family, friends, shared finances etc -over you. so you have to move on. i know you don't want to hear that, really i do. but i can only be honest.

this website is great i think so keep using it when the questions are in your head while its finishing.

good luck and be strong

Fr_Chuck

I can understand how at first you can start dating someone and not know they are married, I myself was guilty of that for a few weeks, but the minute I found out they were married, there is no question of what to do.

First they are cheating on thier spouse, so if they will cheat that easy on them, they will on you also

And of course he is not going to leave his wife, he is having his family and fun sex on the side, what more can men that live like dogs want in life.
Remember when he leaves your bed, where he is going, and think about what he tells her he is doing???

If you want to sleep with married men, at least charge for it, then after 5 years you would have something to show for it.

Geoffersonairplane

So, does this mean he tells you that he and his wife are having problems?

HA!!! His way of just playing you for a fool. He is using you, he won't leave his wife.

Are you confusing your feelings of Love for Lust?

Why would you love someone that cheats on his wife, chances are he would do the same to you too if he were with you.

Sorry, but you need to hear the truth.

Walk Away, I'm sure there is someone better for you out there who has the qualities that make a person worth spending your valuable time with.

Take Care and good luck with whatever you decide to do here!!

Geoffersonairplane

Just thought,

Could it be that the very fact that he is married is driving you to want him more?

I mean if he were suddenly not married, would the challenge not be there anymore?

Therefore would the situation be different.

Think about it!!

Wildcat21

He's married. He wants to use you.

IF you ever want to get close to him he MUST be divorced.

I bet $1 million he will never leave his wife.

You will be the mistress only and have to sneak around and lie - wha tI life!!!!

Many married gusy WILL lie cheat and steal to sleep with you - you're being set up for a huge fall.

Women who fall into this dumb postion are genrally insecure, low self asteem and need the attention. Go buy a dog or something.

Do not contact this guy until he is 100% divorced and has his own place. It will never happen though. He'll always have soem grea tstory why it hasn't.

Only do something you can tell your parents or his wife - then it owuld be ok.

HOW IN THE HELL DO YOU THINK THE WIFE WOULD FEEL?????

Wildcat21

Agian - he has ALREADY lied to you - he will lie more. Quite a guy you have there.

He will cheat on his wife - he will eventually cheat on you - no question.

WHY do so many women have a problem with this????

I know, I know - they rely o ntheir feelings too much.

talaniman

Instead of going through the whole mess of why and whatnot, I'll just answer your questions.
The thing to do is leave him alone period. The next thing is find out why you fall so hard for the lies he feeds you. And finally learn the difference between fools' GOLD and real GOLD.
As to whether or not he will leave his wife? Not voluntarily, She may find out about his cheating ways and give him the boot, but I doubt he leaves on his own. Why should he? He has a life with house and family, and when he gets horny for something different , he has you. His life is perfect. Why would he change anything? I can bet he knows the difference between fools' Gold and real GOLD!!!