heh everyone i just broke up with my ex about a month ago...we just needed some time apart..so now that i am tryin to reconcile things i find out that he is messin with another girl...not his girlfriend but someone he is talkin to..he says that i left him so it will be on his terms when we get back together...i broke down on day and cried tellin him id lost him ect...and he said baby dont cry you havent lost me i just dont want to rush back into things...what is that supposed to mean??the more i try to push the issue the angrier he gets...i dont understand...bc he says he loves me and he says that he still wants to be with me and he believes that we will most likely end up getting back together..but why not now???someone tell me what to do...im losing my mind cuz hes my world and i love him so very much...

Wildcat21

Well - that is a big difference. You do need him involved in your life - unfortunately.

Well - I strong encourage marriage. Being a single mother is extremely difficult.

lickemlolly

i know i have one already...remember i said he treats him like hes his own...

Wildcat21

Don't put too much presure on him right away. Approach the subject slowly. But he has to be there to help raise the kid. Ideally you're married and he gets his act together - no small feat.

He treats your current child well? that's is great.

No beggin, no groveling - you need a plan and sell it to him. Don't get upset at all if at first he is hessitant- he may need time to think and be a lone.

Does he work ful ltime?

lickemlolly

yeah hes an assistant manager....but he treats my son as if it was his own...hes shown a lot of change in the past couple of days....we were discussin my mom coming into town and i told him how id have to move the time off i took on friday to thursday and he was like what did you take time off for friday for i was like well i have someowhere to be not important but its been planned for a while and he grilled me about it so finally i told him im goin to palm beach with a friend and he says oh to meet some guys and i said no...and he got all mad and was like you couldve told if you were i dont have any right to be mad...and i was like im not goin to meet any guys i dont even want to go and he said whatever i tell you anything when you ask no questions about it and it took you forever to tell me that im goin to sleep now my head hurts...and i was like whoa!!what was that all about...but im like ok whatever...im kinda confused i dont know what i did wrong

Wildcat21

You didn't give him a straight answer. That's not good at this point. You guys have to learn to be totally honest with each other.

lickemlolly

no i gave him an honest answer i just wanted to know why it was so important for him to know where i was goin...like i told him i went with my best friend to the club the other night and he was like i bet the guys were dancin all over you...so how many #s did you give out...and i was like i didnt dance with any guys and i didnt give my #out...he says to me yeah right..and im like whoa...just little stuff like that...im thinkin he sees it as its ok for him to talk to someone else but he doesnt want me to talk to neone else

ladada

this boy is probably only gettin with a new girl to get over you sweetie!

but still if he isnt willing to run a mile for you he's not wroth it! ive jus split from my boyf of 15 months (becauyse he cheated) and he was crying and upset but actually hasnt text or rang in a few days.

thing is u will feel the need to always want to text and ring him, but sweetie dont, let him come to you. if he doesnt is he truly worth it?? do u want to spend time with someobdy who wasnt willing to strive out of his way to contact you?

jus my opinion though hun follow your heart x