If you love her I would ALWAYS fight. Especially after 5 years. A lot 'gurus' would say move on. I say no. There are books on Amazon you MUST buy NOW - "How to win your lover back" etc.
You need some relationship books - "How to keep your lover" etc.
Humans Are NOT born with relationship skills - you HAVE to learn them.
This website is OUTSTANDING"
www.lovetactics.com AND
http://www.relationships.blog-city.com - MANY great articles.
www.askmen.com - look under relationships - FANTASTIC stuff - read Doc Love - he will set you straight.
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Did you listen to her?? And have quality conversations or were you doing stupid stuff??
BUT, I wondering how missy got involved in 24 hours with grade school boy?? My thinking is grade school boy has been moving in for quite a while. No way she would tell you this. Sorry for the harsh reality. Don't be naïve. This is important because you need all info.
Now - with you. Lately have you been clingy/needy?? Last few months. All lovely-dovey. Did you turn into a Wuss?? Woman hate wusses!! Were you looking for her approval all the time and NOT trying to upset her?? We're you always available and NOT having other outside interest and seeing your friends. Were you being too nice and not having an opinion??
Woman want a confident man. They do NOT want clingy. They want a MAN who has a life outside the relationship.
I say it OVER and OVER here: your SO/GF/BF/Lover is NOT your life. Not your life.
Letters suck. Notes suck. You have to face her, BUT you have to change and tell her this.
You seem like a 'nice guy' - YOU need to change. YOU need to change.
REMEMBER - people want what the ycan't have!! Be scares for a while.
How did you react when she broke up?? There are certin things you can do to freak them out and show you are a man and change the light - BUT you have to LEARN this stuff.
START LEARNING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS!!
Woman want a nice guy - with some jerk like tendencies:
1. Don't be so nice!! - woman are NOT attracted to this.
2. Don't EVER try and convince her to like you again - YOU can't force a woman to like you!! You need to remember how you were early in the relationship that caused her to like you - act like that guy.
3. Stop looking for her approval for everything - MAKE some freaking decisions - WOMAN want a man who makes decisions. I bet you let her pick all the restaurants, entertainment, everything - woman HATE that.
4. You probablu ALL day long told her how you care and loved her - DON'T SAY it - SHOW IT!! Do things for her. LISTEN TO HER!!
5.NOT getting how attraction works - at one time you gave her a gut feeling that you were a great guy and she let you into her life. It's what ever you DID WHEN YOU FIRST MET!! You got soft dude. Woman DON'T want soft.
6. MOST IMPORTANT POINT!! MOST IMPORTANT POINT!! You gave her ALL the power in the relationship. RIGHT?? All the power. Meaning she made all the decisions - you put her on a pedistal - woman will eat you alive and tear out your heart over this. You did what ever woman wants. Woman hate this!! Wives HATE this!!
7.Not knowing what to do in EVERY situation. LEARN about relationships. LEARN what turns her On. LEARN HOW TO SEDUCE HER!! Learn what she likes.
The ball was in her court!! You thought that was good - you thought she was happy. No, no, no. THE BALL SHOULD BE IN YOUR COURT!! Understand??
YOU stopped being the prize. You need to change. BE THE PRIZE!!
This is tough love. But you really need it dude.