break up

Dave1986 · #1 Aug 21, 2007, 06:08 AM

Is it true that if your girlfriend breaks up with you because she says she needs space, that if you acknowledge her decision an don’t chase her back you've more chance of reconciliation??

Where as if you chase her and act all needy an desperate (Ie. Ring, text, send flowers, letter) she will lose all attraction for you?

GlindaofOz · Aug 21, 2007, 06:11 AM

Yes that can be true. When someone wants space and you honor that decision it certainly shines a nice light on you. However, if they ask for space and you smother them it makes them think that you do not respect their needs or wants. Please keep in mind that nothing is guaranteed. You could give people all the space in the world but it will not guarantee that your ex will come back.

SAB123 · Aug 21, 2007, 06:12 AM

Yes this is true in some cases, it's called NC. NC is not about getting an ex back. It's about making an ex jealous or mad. It's about you healing and moving on without your ex.

hilaryfortnum · Aug 21, 2007, 06:21 AM

Yes, scrawl a note in faeces that says "Stay away fat cow" and post it through her letterbox attached to a lit firework. Your violent and upsetting indifference will bring her crawling back immediately.

Dave1986 · Aug 21, 2007, 06:23 AM

So basically i've totally killed all attraction and any chance of getting back with my ex with my neediness... if i'd of just been strong an gone into NC i'd of prob had more chance of getting things back on the road!

rol · Aug 21, 2007, 06:27 AM

<if i'd of just been strong an gone into NC i'd of prob had more chance of getting things back on the road!>

na dont worry..
it would not have made any difference.

Move on with your life now, and start NC.

GlindaofOz · Aug 21, 2007, 06:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave1986

So basically i've totally killed all attraction and any chance of getting back with my ex with my neediness... if i'd of just been strong an gone into NC i'd of prob had more chance of getting things back on the road!

Well you've learned a valuable lesson here Dave. When someone tells you what they need give it to them. All it means is that this is not the girl for you. Move on and find another nice girl to date.

Dave1986 · Aug 21, 2007, 06:33 AM

Its so hard, its easier to go backwards than it is to go forwards ha!

i dont think i can be bothered with women anymore... or for a while anyway ha!

hilaryfortnum · Aug 21, 2007, 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave1986

Its so hard, its easier to go backwards than it is to go forwards ha!

i dont think i can be bothered with women anymore... or for a while anyway ha!

Yes, becoming a gay may be the answer. They always seem very happy and upbeat. Try that.

SAB123 · Aug 21, 2007, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave1986

So basically i've totally killed all attraction and any chance of getting back with my ex with my neediness... if i'd of just been strong an gone into NC i'd of prob had more chance of getting things back on the road!

Most likely, on 3 major break ups my ex had with me from day one I did not contact her once. She always came back begging for me back. This is know our 4th majpr breakup. I broke contact after 2 months wanting her back. This was the first time I ever contacted her after a breakup. It's know 4 months later, I'm healtheir and I don't want her back.



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