My boyfriend's ex-wife trying to get back into his life... And mine!
Asked Oct 10, 2011, 11:46 AM
My boyfriend and I have been living together for just about two years now and we are extremely happy. We've already gone through the "living together power struggle" and made it through fine. We've known each other for nearly ten years and are well acquainted with each other's families and are very open with each other. I knew before he moved down to my state and into my house that he had an ex-wife and it was a nasty ordeal, but was okay with it because they had essentially no contact.
She's a strange character and we had to block her from our facebooks due to her snooping on both of our pages. I had never met her, but only heard things (pretty unpleasant ones) from my boyfriend and others who had met her. She apparently has a substance abuse issue, and gets quite nasty when she's inhebriated. After their split up she would call my boyfriend's parents (two very nice people) all hours of the night saying terrible things about my boyfriend, saying that he sold drugs, was a theif, a wife beater... Just extremely horrible things.
So I was both excited and mortified when I found out we were going to be at the same wedding (which happened about a month ago), excited for the wedding, and mortified that I would have to be in the same room as her! To my relief, the wedding went fine and she was civil, but something strange happened. She approached me the first moment I was alone and said "I know you know who I am..." which was a really weird way to greet a stranger... And she went on to say there were no hard feelings, but she really creeped me out.
Being civil is fine, actually better than fine, but who wants to be friends with their ex-husband's new girlfriend, and why would I want to be her friend?! After the 12 hour drive home we found that she had friend requested both of us on facebook... We waited a few days but ultimately accepted, simply because we didn't want to offend her and give her a reason to start her nasty shenanigans she is so well known for. Now she comments on everything I do and posts things on my boyfriend's wall almost everyday. I try not to let it get to me, but it's like a constant slap in the face.
My boyfriend and I are young, I'm 22 and he's 25, we would like to continue this pleasant new life we've created together that's working so well, but the ex-wife always cyberly hanging around is really starting to get to me! Neither of us have any interest in talking to her, seeing her, or being friends with her, but she's making sure that she is at the forefront of facebook every time I go to catch up with my friends... Always posting cutesy stuff on his wall, he doesn't respond at all to anything she sends him, but it really does hurt my feelings that she has reposted their wedding and honeymoon photos and continuously tags him in them and writes sentimental comments! What the heck and I supposed to do?