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My boyfriends cell phone shows long calls to a female. What do I do?

Asked Jul 26, 2010, 11:01 AM — 13 Answers
When I arrived home one evening, he was talking to someone on his cell phone. He continued the conversation for another 10 minutes with me sitting by him on the couch. When I asked him who it was, he said, "Why does it matter?" He finally told me it was a lady from work and she was just a friend. He said I was "blowing it out of proportion." Turns out I did a reverse phone lookup and it was a lady from his work. After looking at his phone, I found numerous calls that were sometimes 2 hours long that were dialed to this woman! He works out of town and always is available by cell phone. Trust was one big thing we had and now I feel like everything has been shaken. I am driving myself crazy wondering what he is doing when he isn't around me and I don't want to keep looking on his cell phone. Any advice out there? I have a ring on my finger from him but no mention of marriage.

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Jul 26, 2010, 12:40 PM
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Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
Trust is not needing/feeling like you need to go through your boyfriends phone. We must have differing opinions.
Yea, we do. It's funny too, because I totally get what you're saying. I just don't feel that way, especially not about a phone. It would be different if I specifically told a s/o "I don't want you to read/listen/get-into this phone/e-mail/journal or w/e it might be for w/e reason". But otherwise, I have no secrets, I could care less if she went through my phone, my computer, my mail... What the heck is the big deal? I'm not hiding any of that from her. Though, I'd definitely feel kind of sad, maybe even hurt or worried that she would feel the need to "go through my phone", but on the whole, it wouldn't bother me and it certainly wouldn't offend me.

For me, trust isn't a one way thing. It's something two people share, rather than my trust for her versus her trust for me. Kind of hard to explain.
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Jul 26, 2010, 12:49 PM
There is no set right or wrong. Your emotions tell you what you want. Ask yourself what you want. As woman you have a right to your feelings. Listen to your gut. Set some limits. The time of day is important. He shouldn't be on the phone late at night with another woman. You posted the question so it is on your mind. You don't have anything to prove. If he is talking to a woman more than you like lay down the law. If he can't get with it leave him. It is very important to discuss all this stuff when dating.
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Jul 26, 2010, 12:52 PM
I don't think you should trust blindly. If you don't like something then you just don't like it. Every cheat started with a conversation.
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Mar 24, 2011, 10:09 PM
Good answers. Trust is something I do not freely give in this world. You have to earn it. Don't get me wrong giving the benefit of doubt is important, unless you keep suspecting your gut telling you something else. Check it out save your life don't let a lie drag on. You will only keep a fight going and living a lie when you can start a new life over. Life is too short. I have been lied to and cheated on and when I asked and got seemingly innocent replies, but then something else would happen I asked and questioned the behaviors and still thought gee this does not seem right, so I became that snoopy little ***** just too see what was really going and come to find my boyfriend was seeing someone else and playing us both. To top it he said she thought she was pregnant etc...He claimed he was confused and really loved me and her both...but me more so! Huh?!? It tore me up. He proposed too me and I said NO. Couldn't imagine the womanizer would be trustworthy enough to marry. Funny thing is he ended up marrying her. Whether she was really pregnant or not I never found out.
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