I'm 23 years old, I've been with my partner 26 for about a year. When we first started dating everything happened so fast. Within a month of our relationship we were living together. We moved to his home-town where we were living with his parents. I had given up my job, left my friends and even given up my family (I don't have a relationship with my parents due to the terrible upbringing I was raised up in.)My boyfriend helped me come to realization that I was an awesome person and showed me how to trust, love and confide in others. Having to move into his playing field had me rely on him for so much.. then it went both ways, vise versa.
We started as puppy dogs in love.. we couldn't keep our eyes or hands off each other. We had sex whenever we were alone.. (always), then it slowly stated fading to once a day. Then to once every two weeks.At this stage I found myself having to ask for sex. I would always ask If he was okay? Or am I doing something wrong. Sex turned into once a month, every time I would touch my boyfriend he would brush me off or say What are you playing at? I have tried sexy lingerie. But the same old excuses.. he's tired, or he's got to sore stomach or back. I was so use to rejection then I found myself weeks later, blessed with a child,I was nine weeks pregnant. I could not believe it. I was absolutely over the moon. I couldn't have wished for a better person to parent a child with.
We got our behinds into action and moved into our own house. Everything was going well... relationship, sex everything. At eleven weeks pregnant I miscarried due to stress of moving and our finances.
Now everything has gone back to how it was before I was pregnant. I can't touch him without him rejecting me. Now it's eating at me.. I don't have anyone to talk to that are not his friends as well as mine. I am a very private person and I tend to bottle my emotions up. The only person I have is my boyfriend, no family.. because I don't have awesome parents my boyfriend won't marry me. To me that's pretty much saying I'm not good enough.. he reckons it's all in my head.
I've been trying so hard for him to make love to me, but he would rather jack off. I'm getting tired of feeling rejected, tired of feeling like I'm unattractive. My boyfriend has not touched me since I miscarried our baby. It's been 3 months. He is very loyal and respectful so I know he's not cheating on me. I know he's not with me because he feels sorry for me. What do I do?

I think you still have a lot of issues you need to work through. While sex and intimacy in relationships are important, they are NOT everything. The two of you need to learn to communicate and find the root of the real issues that are getting in the way of the intimacy. Also, I don't blame him for not wanting to get married right now. Only 1 year of dating. And super fast paced dating. He probably feels its too soon to get married and I agree.

Focus on working on your own issues, you seem to have some serious issues with yourself esteem still. And both of you have to be able to communicate better. And work on finding friends of your own. Coworkers. Join a gym. Get involved in a community center. Take a class. Anything to start meeting your own friends.

You have given up your whole life to live his. That has to change, and by building a life that you enjoy without him, so you can have your own friends, and love yourself when no one else does.

Your whole world depends on him and what he does, and that's not healthy. You need to be happy with yourself, and have something good to share besides your lust.

To have a chance to survive, you must grow, and learn how to talk, and listen, because as you see that lust fades and love grows, and love cannot grow here unless you do, because you can't control him, just yourself.

Good luck!

You and he are living together and there is no "need" for him to see that marriage is any rush or need. He has everything he wants in the relationship at this point.

You need to start and build your own life, a job, your own friends and be happy with who you are, without the need for his affirming it.

Next instead of jumping into bed all the time, how about talking more, then the bed time can be better also

I think the problem goes further than him just not wanting to marry. I am very sorry about your miscarriage.

To me, it doesn't seem like he wants to be with you, it doesn't even seem like he wants anything to have to do with you. He seems to be wanting to get out, but because he knows you have dropped everything for him, I think he feels trapped in the situation in which you both are right now. He might be depressed, that would explain his mood swings and him fleeing from you every time you offer sex, any guy would be more than willing to make love to the one they love most of the time I presume. I think you might want to look into how you are going to exit his life and start living your own, because until you do, I don't think you are letting him live his either.

Good Luck,
Javi

Believe it or not guys can be depressed about miscarriages also, especially if they were looking forward to having a child. You think he may be so affected by this he is afraid of being hurt again? Something to consider.

I tink the guy is responsible and mature enough. As u've said, it's just a year relationship Give him some time and I think he has his own reason for not proposing yet be strong and be patient, I guess good things will come out of your relationship.God's blessings!