My name is Amanda. I am 18, and I have been dating this guy named David for about six months(he's 23 by the way). We used to have a great relationship before he started to drive trucks for a living, we broke up on April Fool's Day this year, and then we got back together about 2 and a half weeks ago. While we were broken up, I started talking to another guy friend of mine who's name is Jeff. Jeff and I go to school together(he' a junior and I'm a senior). Jeff and I started talking, and spending time together both before and after school. Well, one day he asked me to be his girlfriend, so I said yes, not realizing that my ex would find out. Well, he did and needless to say, he wasn't happy. Anyway, long story short, my ex thinks that I love Jeff more than I do him(which is not true, I found out this afternoon at lunch, that he's dating a good friend of mine and didn't tell me about it.). The other problem with my relationship with David is that David doesn't like the fact that I asked Jeff to my Senior Prom,. I didn't want to go alone, so I asked him and we hung out for a while before I left to be with David. Well, last night David tells me that he wants to break up with me because he doesn't think that I love him anymore. He really believes that I love Jeff more than I do him, which is not true. How do I get David to see that I really love him and only him, and that I didn't mean to hurt him, but that when I promise not to associate with Jeff at all, I really mean it. I feel that if David and I break up, my life as I know it will be over. How do I make my relationship with David better again? I NEED HELP FAST!

talaniman

How can you expect someone to believe you love them while going with someone else??? If you expect loyalty you must first be loyal so if David is who you want then get rid of Jeff. You can't have it both ways.
This sounds like you were up to no good and you got what you deserve.

Is David the one dating a friend or is Jeff??? Either way you all sound as if your playing a game.

AW805

Amanda, It really does sound like you want your cake and eat it too. I think you probably will need to back away from both these guys and figure yourself out.

EnglishWiz1988

I know which guy I want in my life, it's David. I have talked to him for 5 minutes today, and he is still wanting to break up with me. But I KNOW IN MY HEART that we can work this out. I have promised myself and him that I won't talk to the aforementioned guy anymore, but he doesn't believe me. I have told him countless times over the past few months that I am sorry for hurting him. And I am. I REALLY am. I don't know how to get him to see that I REALLY LOVE HIM. I have told him repeadly that I love him, and I tried hard to show him last night how I felt about him. I decided that I wanted to give myself over to him completely, so I did. I don't regret it. I really don't want to lose him. He REALLY MEANS THE WORLD TO ME, but I don't know how to get him to see that I love him and just him. Two other users have suggested that I step back from both of these guys and try to figure out who I REALLY want in my life, and I know who I want in my life. It took me a while to figure it out, but in the end I've figured out that all I want in my life is David, and I will do ANYTHING to show him that I love him. How else can I tell him or show him that I REALLY mean what I've told him today and last night, without having to have sex every time we are together. I REALLY DO REALIZE THAT WHAT I DID WAS WRONG. I was so mad at myself last night, that I came home and cried and almost made myself sick because I was so worried about it, still am as a matter of fact. I REALLY REALLY DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM. I now see how bad of a guy Jeff(the guy who I recently went to prom with who is dating my friend Elena) really was. My friend Elena told me at lunch today that she and Jeff are going out. Well, Jeff forgot to tell me this last week, so I assumed that he still liked me somewhat. But I guess I was wrong. I REALLY hate Jeff and I vow to NEVER speak nor see him again. This is kind of easy at my HS. It's a school with over 1200 kids in it,and I don't have any classes nor do I have lunch wth him. The only time that I would see him would be in the mornings before school(which I know spend that time getting tutored in Algebra.) I don't know what I can do to get David to trust me again. I know that he loves me somewhat. I REALLY KNOW THAT I LOVE HIM AND NOT JEFF. Jeff even told some of my friends at Prom that he hates me, which is a good thing because I hate him. So what can I do to make things right between David and I? I have deleted Jeff's information from my phone, computer and mind. I saw him at school in the hallway this morning, but I didn't look at him, I saw that he was coming towards me, and I walked in the opposite direction. I REALLY don't know how I can earn back David's trust. I REALLY THINK with every fiber of my being that we can make this work. What I have thought of doing is asking if maybe we can just have some space in our relationship, like see eachother not this wkend when he's home, but next weekend. I AM WILLING TO DO WHATEVER ANYONE SAYS TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT.

s_cianci

If you really care for david the way you do, then why did you ever get involved with Jeff? Frankly I don't blame David for reacting the way he did. If I were in his shoes I'd have done exactly the same thing. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you sabotaged yourself on this one. Are you sure you really know what you want? Are you being truly honest with yourself and everyone else? i think you need to take a good, long, hard look at yourself and decide just where you want to go with all of this and what you want to do. Then be honest and upfront with everybody about it.

Rockabilly1955mama

Very good answer.

Vindebutante

first everyone here is lame including ur bf......he broke up with you...you can do what u want u dont have to be lonely just because he doesnt know what he wants....was he ur bf when u asked the other guy to prom if not then w.e. hes the one with issues not u. i mean he cant have everything. your young he should be more stable than to keep breaking up to make up. maybe hes just playing with ur mind so u give up everything to make him happy .....something to think about.