hey! =D

me and my boyfriend have been fighting alot lately over stupid things...like waht time he is going to meet me for lunch, his firends, his faaily, wether we love each other or not, sex and everything, mostly because i recently told him that i don't trust him.
what do i do, to be able to trust him and then get rid of the fighting?

kitty xxx

LadyMysticPegasus

Why don’t you trust him? If I know that I can help more.
Big Question , do you love him? If yes I can stop all the bickering right away. Before you start to disagree with him think. Do I want to be happy are do I want to be right? This will help you pick you’re battles , stuff like when to meet for lunch and his friends they won’t seem like such a big deal and you can just let him have his way and , you my not be right but you’ll be happy.
Men have a natural drive to make more decisions then we do. It has to do with testosterone and needing to be a provider. So If you let him win more agreement and make more decisions he’ll feel like the provider ,alpha male , be happier and so will you.
If you find you’re self longing to fight about the small stuff. Take a silent second and remember three things you love about him. Then you can let it go.
Good Luck Girl!

summer123

thankyou for your reply =D

well on the first night that we were going out, he had his 18th and one of his ex's from grade 10 came, and he was flirting wit her, like he hugged her twice, kissed her forehead once, and was talking with his hand on her leg, but apparently they have been friends since kindergartten....but yeah, ever since then his friends have been telling me things that he has done without me knowing, but he swears he never did, and i don't know who to believe?? i love him more than anything, but lately with all the fighting my feelings are not as strong.

kitty xxx

chuff

Well if you don't trust him and it sounds like you have valid reasons then you need to end it now, not when it spirals downward and gets worse.

summer123

but i love him :confused:
i can't walk away it is not that easy!

cmcdev

How long have you been together? Why don't you trust him? Is it because of your past relationships or has he done something such as cheated? If it is constant fighting, I would ask myself "Why" and is the relationship worth saving? If you've only been together for a short period...I would say things won't change and to get out of the relationship but if you have been together for awhile and have just now started to fight a lot, maybe you should try talking it through. Try to figure out the problem.

summer123

if you read my second answer, it will tell you why i don't trust him! =(

Skell

Pretty simple.

No trust and respect for each other means no relationship.

Why do you love a man you cant trust and always fight with.

It is quite perplexing.

Sometimes people think they are in love but arent! Doesnt sound like there is much love.

I would think it is time to really assess closely whether you really want this or not. It doesnt sound as though it is really worth continuing it though!

summer123

he is the only one that i can imagine my life with, the only one that i want to fall asleep and wake up with, the only one i want to move on. do i excuse his behavior from when we were frist goig out, because they have been friends since kindergarden?

Skell

We have all felt that way about our first love.

But why would you want a life with no trust and lots of fighting!

Trust me when i say there will be someone else out there who will be much more suited to you and rather than fighting with him when you wake up with him every morning, you'll smile and know that all the hard times you went through to get to this point was worth it!