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playful child · Apr 25, 2007, 04:21 PM

Hi I'm playful child my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him but I'm not.I try to tell him but he won't listen.how can I tell him where I can get him to actually listen to me.:(

Secret_J · Apr 25, 2007, 04:33 PM

Trust is a BIG thing in a relationship, without it you simply can't have one.

Have you given him any reason to think you are cheating on him? Have patterns changed in your daily routine that would make him think so? If not, and you have told him repeatedly that you aren't cheating on him and he still doesn't believe you, then he doesn't trust you and with no trust you will constantly have arguments resulting in a very unhealthy relationship.

kp2171 · Apr 25, 2007, 04:34 PM

More to the story?

Explain?

playful child · Apr 25, 2007, 04:59 PM

Well Ill Tell U About What Happened Today Me And My Friends We Were Having A Coversation And He Walked Up When I Said There's This Guy That's Cute And He Went Beserke But He Walked Back To His Seat And He Was Furious I Was Over There Laughing With My Friends When One Of Them Said Hey Look Ur Guy Looks Upset So I Walked Over There And Asked Him What's Wrong And He Said Nothing . Then I Don't Know But I Think He Might Breakup With Me And Im Afraid He Will Oh We've Been Together Since January 4 Months

Matt3046 · Apr 25, 2007, 05:21 PM

Well you are "in love" with your best friend.

kp2171 · Apr 25, 2007, 06:45 PM

So you said another guy is cute and he's mad.

He is immature. Like all other guys stopped being cute the second you started dating him?

And I'm sure you'd have no problems with him pointing out a girl he thinks is hot, right?

You sound like you are young. If he breaks up with you over this then he doesn't trust you and he doesn't have the self esteem it takes... but most people when young, guys or girls, struggle some with this.

So... just don't fret about it. What are you supposed to do, kiss his arse cause he didn't like that you found another person attractive?

I've been married 7 years. I see attractive women every day. I'm sure my wife sees guys she's attracted to every day. Do we get mad because of it? no.

Now... I don't think most guys want to hear that talk all the time... and its reasonable for him to be a little uncertain about it... but if he keeps acting po'd then he has some maturing to do.

Becca1025 · Apr 26, 2007, 03:29 PM

Ooo four months... he's a keeper (jk... SMILE!) All right... well it seems to me that you two have a huge communication and trust problems, as well as insecurities between the two of you. He is paranoid that you are cheating and you are afraid that he is going to break up with you. Sounds like a fun relationship... Look obviously you two need to talk about this and get it all straightened out. Ask why he thinks you would cheat on him. Ask him why he gets so upset, what causes his jealousy, things like that. If he cannot answer you then that should solve all your problems... Who would want to be with someone who you cannot talk to? If he doesn't want to talk to you about things like that or is even willing to try to figure out and fix the issues, then what's the point? If you have to say goodbye then so be it. Heart break is a b*tch to deal with, I know, but it makes us stronger and it makes us who we are. Easier said then done, I know. But be the stronger, more independent person. Show him you're not going to take his "little girl" attitude with the pouting when he hears something he doesn't like. Tell him to get over it and if he can't get over it then that's his problem not yours. Maybe it'll work, maybe it won't, but either way everything will be fine. Goodluck and don't be so afraid of him breaking up with you, there are plenty and I mean plenty of guys out there.

talaniman · Apr 27, 2007, 05:31 AM

I am confused really, since you posted this yesterday
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ppp-86305.html
And today you have a boyfriend.

talaniman · Apr 27, 2007, 05:36 AM

As to your question, If he can't take your word and accept it, he is to immature and insecure for you.

iscorpio · Apr 27, 2007, 06:32 AM

Originally Posted by playful child

hi im playful child my boyfriend thinks im cheating on him but im not.I try to tell him but he wont listen.how can i tell him where i can get him to actually listen to me.:(

You are probably giving out the wrong signals due to your other post about your best friend, as you are so mesmerized by her he probably thinks that it is another guy that has turned your head. You need to ask him why he thinks that you are not faithful to him and maybe try to explain how you feel about him. Take care, love and peace anne x

Delicious-D · Aug 1, 2007, 02:18 AM

Ee no me and you are having the same problem I've been with mine for 3months. So what I did to make this all better is have a long talk with him not over the phone either lol. And tell him how much you care and stuff , but the reason why he's acting like this is because maybe he heard that you are cheating on him because his little friends are getting to his head trust me that's the reason why my boyfriend was acting like that too because his friends told him that I was cheating on him but what ever you do don't bring up the past of any guy nor girl in your relationship because it always makes things worst...

s_cianci · Aug 1, 2007, 07:56 AM

Sounds like you've already tried. Why does he think you're cheating on him? Are other people spreading rumors? Do you tend to be a flirty person? I can't be sure but you may need to address some underlying issues causing him to have this belief.