I have been with my boyfriend nearly fours years, only the past year and half it has been unstready, on Friday 13th he split with me, it killed me because it came out of the blue, and not long before he did, he even said how well we had been getting on, but his for for splitting was because we kept falling out, because he never wants to talk through or problems to sort them to make thing better because i truley love this guy. But now today he has split with me again, now its because he says he no longer wants to be in a relationship, i think what brought this on is that i said i feel unloved and unwanted an that it may not be working out, i didnt mean for us to split, he just lately doesnt seem interested in me, but this has really shocked me because yesterday he was ok and a few weeks back was saying for us to book our holiday for next year? But only yesterday he lost his job which he never told me about which really shocked me, he rang his mate straight away but never mentioned anything to me, if i knew he was under so much stress i would of been there for him, but like i said he never speaks to me about anything? Help!
Can anyone shed any light on to why he is being like this, an is it all my fault? Will he ever want to get back with me or does he just need some space again?
But hes now said that he didnt no were his head was at, at the time with him just losing his job and stuff?
I Got laid off a week prior to my girl dumping me. I can say that i was pretty depressed about it. I knew it was gonna happen for like a month and i wasn't in a very good mood. It does effect a person.
i wud like to get back with him, an it sounded like he wanted to get with me.
Then we spoke on the phone, and now its like ita taken him back to us being friends, when a minute ago we was saying that we had somthing special??
Instead of trying to guess what his intentions are why don't you ask him "what do you mean".
However, I stil think you should go back to your NC. You don't need this confusion in your life and this is all he is added to your life right now "confusion".
Ive been split with my ex for about 1 month, we were together for over years, he says we drifted apart an always falling out over silly things with which i agree, however i loved him so sos much i really wanted to giv it one last go but he never wanted to. we tried a little to be mates but i always wanted more. I was with him since we were 18 and now coming 23.
Today we had the biggest fall out ever, i lied and said some untruthful hurtful things which he now knows was all llies, he came to my house shouting callin me every name under the sun, untill my dad had to come to the door and call him in to sort this out.
He wanted the things he got my back so i said ok i'll bring them later, i was so upset an angry with everyfin he had been sayin i cut up the 2 designer bags he got me and all the jewellery. A little while later he phoned saying why we like this asking to meet me to talk properly, but its all to late, when were were together or when i wanted to be with him he never wanted to talk then when it really mattered he hurt me so much i told him i dont want to know.
I went an took his things round hopeing he wouldnt be in he was so i went out his house, his mom seemed off with me an tried to close the door with me in, i went out the house and could hear him calling, he then came and chased me an grabbed the bag off me with the cut up items i looked back an could see him looking i was soooo scared i walked fast and rang my friend who was on her way to pick me up, then phonned my mom which he soon ran up to me going mad so i told her to come pick me up to, then he snatech the phone out my hand, telling me to say sorry an walked off with it back to his telling me to go to his which i was to scared to i waited for my mom told her then went to his his mom was going mad i saw i complete different side to her, nasty and mean he was being just as nasty an hurtful everyone trying to make me look like the bad one my mom callled the police bout my phone being taken then after some arguing an sillyness he threw it outside and said go get like the dog u are lol so i did and went to the car, my mom still at the door broke down started crying an his mom rubbing her back, i just wonder if we would ever get over this when we are older because as silly as it sounds i do love him, and wish it never had to be like this, because he said he loves me and wants to be with me but we fall out over sillyness i just say because we are both young, an both our first serious relationships, i really dont know what to think and if i'll ever get over him because i would have done anything for him, and hes wrecked my life takeing away my work experience at uni, telling his mates girlfriends sillyness so they all hate me and i just dont know were we, i will go from here?
sorry guys for it being long i'm at rock bottom right now x x
This sounds unhealthy. You need to cut all ties, and start no contact IMMEDIATELY. In time you'll get over him, and find someone that is worth your time.
Please keep all your questions regarding the same issue in the same thread. I had to merge your threads so that we can follow your story.
This has been a particularily LONGon and off relationship.
You broke up for a reason every time. If you can't fix the problems that broke you up in the first place (in this case, mutiple times), then you're just going to end up breaking up again and again.
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