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boyfriend in hospital, tells friend more than girlfriend, angry, confused and upset!
The Update
well last night i went for the meal (on my own) and it was ok. anyway i got home and around midnight i received a text from my boyfriend. he has been admitted to hospital and having various tests done. anyway he tried ringing but was out of money. i was up most of the night worrying. the thing is even though he let me know he didn't tell me all that much. i find out about 10 minutes ago that he had text the 'friend' and told her in detail all wot was going on and wrong. anyway his mum text me this morning and let me know he will be home today and she will get him to ring me.
as much as i am worried about him i cant help but feel angry and upset. why is he telling the 'friend' and not his girlfriend? i dont know if he even wants me to see him. i now have the friend telling me that he may want more time away from me to get better and what he is feeling. i feel really let down that i get 1 text and part of a phone call which worried me and yet she gets a full conversation with him. what am i doing wrong or am i over reacting?
i have mentioned to my boyfriend on a few occasions before this about things she has said. i dont want to say anything now obviously as i dont want him to get worse or angry or upset with me etc. their is a history as i have posted before about the friend getting in the way. she has just now sent me a message saying that i should be glad he is ok and it doesnt matter if he doesnt see me as much, trust me he wont want to see anyone, and not you, and that i cant do out to help him etc. basically lecturing me on how bad a girlfriend i am as i said i was going to try see him. the first thing i said was that im glad he is going home and that i wanted him well and said i might see if he wanted me there. what am i doing so wrong and what do i say back to her? so far i said i like to have someone im close to with me when im bad and stressed out. i want to be close to him and supportive. am i really that bad a girlfriend?
the latest txt: diff ppl, diff ways. i knw wat hes like trust me...take care of urself too, ur no gd to him if ur unwell n around him lol.
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ok well if youve read my other posts you will know whats happened. basically my boyfriend has panic attacks and lately they have been bad. anyway he has cancelled on me everyday this week. well tonight we were meant to be going for a meal with a few people i went to college with. i have text him to find out and have had no answer. anyway he has not replied to any since yesterday morning. well i went on my bebo and it said he was on 8 hours ago so bout midnight. obviously i wasnt on at that time and the female friend was last logged on between 12 and 1. this usually means that they will have been talking. well my problem is he is ignoring me completely. normally he sends me a text to at least say he wont be over but this time ive heard nothing. the friend said she hasnt spoken to him and that he probably doesnt want to talk to me if hes had another panic attack. do you think this is right or is their more to it? and what shall i do? thanks
This has just been a relationship of a few months? Oh honey get out! This is WAY too much drama. There is obviously something fishy going on between him and this "Friend". I'd run not walk away from this situation. He has made it quite obvious through his actions that you are not that important to him (not to be harsh), he is acting as if you do not matter. And darling YOU DO. You need to realize that this guy is a loser and doesn't see it when he's got something good. Move on and find someone who appreciates what a caring person you are.
Sorry I went back to some of your other posts to get a clearer picture http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search....archid=1615076
And I really think you need to back away from this unhealthy situation, as you don't need the aggravation or drama, and could be better served by getting healthy, by being happy without a relationship, if thats what you call the drama with this guy and his friends.
he called me when he got out of hospital thank god. he hasnt spoken to the 'friend' so far, which is annoying her and is therefore asking me to keep her updated. i dont think he would cheat on me and he did tell her not to say somethings. my main problem is her and the things she says to me. if she was not involved i think it could work alot better. but i cant do that can i. i dont want to end it he means alot to me and i believe him when he tells me i mean alot to him. i know he has problems with the panic attacks i just dont want them in the way.
he called me when he got out of hospital thank god. he hasnt spoken to the 'friend' so far, which is annoying her and is therefore asking me to keep her updated. i dont think he would cheat on me and he did tell her not to say something. my main problem is her and the things she says to me. if she was not involved i think it could work alot better. but i cant do that can i. i dont want to end it he means alot to me and i believe him when he tells me i mean alot to him. i know he has problems with the panic attacks i just dont want them in the way.
Again, not to be harsh, I don't think you mean a lot to him. He is acting like someone who does not care about your feelings. He is not treating you with respect. This guy makes you feel bad about yourself, what's so great about him? You are only a few months in and it is easy to get out now. You have no reason to stick around with some guy who shuts you out of his life. If someone shuts you out and treats as if you do not matter a few months in it will only get worse from here.
If every time he mistreats you and you don't say anything he thinks its fine to treat you like you don't matter. If you didn't let him and say I'm sorry I don't deserve to be shut out of your life and mistreated I don't think this is going to work.
You are young and there is no reason for you to attach yourself to some loser when you can do so much better.
xxsamxx110 disagrees: he wouldnt cheat and i know they arent together, she is having a child with someone else and even though she has admitted that she fancies him he has told her he doesnt fancy her. besides she lives nowhere near us.
to be honest i dont want advice telling me to break up with him. thats far from what i want. i want advice on what do do about the 'friend' and if its me over reacting.
You can spin your story any way you want, but he is not as into you, as you are him. Its a big red flag when his friends harrass you and nothing is done about it from him. Nothing effective, so what does that tell you????
what do you mean 'You may be in denial because of a lack of knowledge'? im not spinning my story im telling it as it happens and as i see it. the friend is meant to be a mutal friend. my bf has told her to stop saying somethings but what can he do if she doesnt stop or he doesnt hear what is said to me?
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