is my boyfriend gay?

clamity_angel · #1 Jul 8, 2006, 12:15 AM

hi need some advice please went out last night as i do every friday to local with my boyfriend and week after week when hes had a drink he flirts with men he touches their nipples and feels their asses he says hes just having a laugh but i kind of worried now and ppl commenting on it. my best friend says its odd my brother is gay and he does the same kind of stuff. i probably been silly we been together nearly a year i dont no what to do help xx

Wildcat21 · Jul 8, 2006, 12:06 PM

Yes - he might be bi-sexual as well - although I don't beleive in bi-sexual.

Sounds like he's gay - straight guys don't do that at all.

Do you have sex? Is he all man???? turned on all the time by you?

Stormy69 · Jul 8, 2006, 12:56 PM

Yep I would say he is leaning toward the other side of the fence. You could ask him, but I doubt he will just " come out" ( pardon the pun) and admit it.
My ex husband was gay and he did a lot of the same things you say your boyfriend did, also saying he was just " joking around"

shunned · Jul 8, 2006, 02:11 PM

Does he do this will imbibing? If the people he is doing this with are friends then this could be immature playfulness. If he doesn't know the people, it's sexual harassment.

ndx · Jul 8, 2006, 04:03 PM

I think, losened up that your boyfriend is acting homosexually. If he was just playing around, theres nothing stoping him doping it when hes not drunk, which he doesnt do, does he? The drink, imo is making him be more of "himself". On the other hand he could just be pissing about, although most straight guys ont do that, nore would that kind of joke enter there head to do. So, I think you should ask him. You dont want a gay boyfriend, and all fairness to him he might not want a girlfriend. Its beter to find out now than 3 years down the line when you have a son, and a morgage.

Wildcat21 · Jul 8, 2006, 04:52 PM

As we've seen above - a lot of gay men, because of society, pretend to be straight - basically because of presure from friends, family, work, religion etc.

I just found out a friend who is 40 years old is gay. All his friends are totally straight. Obviously we're all friends with him totally - but he felt so much presure. Weird thingh is he kind of dated one of my old girlfriends friend for a while....I don't think they had sex.

PLEASE ask him about this - it's NOT fair to you at all. He is REALLY leading you on.....I know another gal who is in love with a gay man -sad thing is he will never switch teams - she's tried to de-gay him.

clamity_angel · Jul 9, 2006, 12:57 AM

yes we have good sex but he dont put alot of feelings into it not like i do i guess im just kidding myself deep down i know its time to let him go .

thanks all xxxx

Krs · Jul 10, 2006, 12:40 AM

Tell him you are interested in experimenting in a threesome, you wanna add another man in bed with you two... lol
see how he reacts to that

Wildcat21 · Jul 10, 2006, 06:47 AM

That's not funny.

Clamity - if you feel weird about it - that female gut instinct.....TALK WITH HIM. Maybe he needs help.

You hear all the time about gay men having kids aonly to come out of th closet. Not sure how that get aroused but must think of other things.



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