my boyfriend doesnt want to move in with me

sabrewolfe · Apr 28, 2010, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by elababy3808

he is going to college for free with or without his parents.

But there are other bills involved here. His living expenses.

ChihuahuaMomma · Apr 28, 2010, 05:22 PM

But he isn't living free without them. I agree, I think this way its easier for him to focus on school. If he has the responsibilities of bills, a house/apartment, live-in-girlfriend, pets, etc...his school work could suffer. I think you pushing him into this would be a mistake and could likely push him away. I would say respect his choice and his education enough to be patient and wait it out. He's making a smart choice.

I've been on my own since I was 15. Just because you THINK you'll have enough together to afford a place doesn't mean that you will actually be able to afford it. Most places you have to bring in three times the amount of rent. There are tons of utilities to take into account (I never knew you had to pay for WATER when I first moved out). What happens if the toilet overflows in the middle of the night and you can't get a hold of the landlord and the plumber won't leave without his $200 and you don't have it? What happens when you just paid rent and have $7 left and your transmission in your car goes out? Having "enough" is never enough. I say be young and irresponsible as long as you can, cause once it's time to step up to the plate it's not as fun as you think.

talaniman · Apr 28, 2010, 11:47 PM

Whatever his reasons, its clear he doesn't want what you want, and isn't ready to leave home. That's just the way it is, and you accept it, as you never know, it might be a blessing in disguise, because you know you won't pamper him like his mommy does. And I doubt he will like it if you don't.

my boyfriend doesnt want to move in with me

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