My boyfriend doesn't show me affection anymore. How do I get him normal again?
We've been togeth almost 2 yrs.
These are the kind of things that happen lately over the las 5 weeks or so...
- I go to cuddle him and sometimes he'll let me (but very rare lately) and most of the time his like "i'm not in the mood" or he crosses his arms or moves away or something so that I can't cuddle him. It hurts a lot when he does that!
- His even told me that when we're sitting on the couch, he wants me to sit far up the other end and not snuggle into him all the time.
Look I understand that there are times when people want to just relax and don't feel like having someone cuddling into them or anything, but doing that to someone all the time?
I'm am showing him so much affection and just not getting it in return anymore. Like I may go to kiss him and he'll give me one good kiss but then will give another real quick one and pull away to end it!
He won't talk about it because his said we've talked about it a lot and doesn't want me to keep bringing it up because it just makes him think about everything and makes him angry and will take him longer to forget it.
& when it somes to sexual stuff, he use to have like the biggest sex drive ever and now it's basically ZERO! Unless it's to benefit him. Like he'll ask me to do something to him, or send me a text and when I reply like could you do this for me or imply that I want something done he either says "no thanks lol" or "not in the mood" or "to get something i don't wanna have to give you somethihg in return so dw about it". I don't mind doing stuff to him, but every time I do I get rejected lately and I'm feeling real left out. It's a big part of the relationship and he as actually said this to me before and yet when I tell him this again his like "i'm not going to do it if i dont want to".
It's driving me crazy! Every now and then he'll do something but it so rare now and I should be able to give my boyfriend a hug and not have him cross his arms!
He says he loves me and that he cares about me , but when I cry he gets angry at me rather than trying to make me feel better.
Can someone please help me? I have all these restrictions and I'm not allowed to show too much affection because he gets annoyed or says he wants his space even when I'm at his house and will expect me to sit in his room watching TV while he goes up top to watch TV or something.
Also his like, he wants his space even when I'm up at his house and that the days when he doesn't see me he likes that time because it's his time. But then on a day his not norm with me he'll ask me out to lunch . I don't get why when he complains so much about his time etc.?
I know that how he is treating me is wrong, but the thing is before all this he was the sweatest person every and I don't want to end it because I love him so much!
So could people please help me, whether it be trying to understand what his thinking or how I can deal with it all and make him go back to normal again??