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    nicole001 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 23, 2011, 08:20 PM
    My boyfriend cheated on me
    My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years now we have a baby girl who is now 2.

    Before we got together he was with another girl for just over 3 years he cheated on her with me & got me pregnant. We are now together were happy until I recently went through his phone to see he has been having sex with his ex. I confronted him and he told me everything. Said it just happened, he feels guilty, and he's sorry.

    He wants me, doesn't have any feelings for her at all, and that he just got to drunk the sex happened. A month before I seen texts on his phone but then I seen also that he asked her if they had sex that night. She said no because they didn't have any protection but, didn't stop him from trying to get her nickers off.

    He hasn't gone out since and said this would never happen again but his friends gfs are best friends with this girl, and whenever he goes to pubs with his mates, I know there is a possibility that she is there to. I only just found this out 2 days ago. I love him so much that I don't want to leave him but, then saying that I'm constantly thinking about this, and picturing her, and him together.

    It won't go away an it upsets me a lot! I have no idea what to do.
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    vanheart Posts: 2,806, Reputation: 708
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    May 23, 2011, 08:42 PM
    You need to decide if he is worth it, now that the trust is broken.

    That's tough. Especially that you have a family w/him.

    Hes going to have to do some serious proving to you now. This is going to take lots of serious planning & communication.
    Not to mention what both of your priorities are.

    Doesn't sound like he is acting like a committed partner or dad. Thinking with his d&*ck instead. Sounds like he always has.

    But, we all make mistakes. Can he reconcile and can you forgive?

    That's the question. Sounds like he needs to grow up & start taking responsibility for his actions

    "he cheated on her with me & got me pregnant"

    What do you think that says? He wasn't to be trusted from the get go...

    Get some professional couples counseling if you think he can change his ways.
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    May 23, 2011, 09:50 PM

    Well if he is at the pubs getting drunk and she is there they just might get it on again, and since he cheated on her, with you, then maybe he just can't help his cheating self.

    Bad situation to be in but, you can leave anytime and put and end to this, and get some child support and visitations, or you can trust this lying cheater, and look the other way, like you have been doing.

    Me, I run from cheaters but that's how you got him, and that's probably how you keep him. If you deserve better, and have had enough, dump him. That's what I would do.
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    May 24, 2011, 12:21 AM

    Do you see the pattern?

    He c h e a t s!

    I agree with Talaniman's idea-you can leave anytime,get child support etc-and I would,rather than trust a cheater.
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    May 24, 2011, 02:06 PM
    He cheated on her with you - and now cheated on you with her.. It's a classic. In my opinion - once a cheater - always a cheater. You should be expecting him to cheat on you since he cheated with you. Good luck.

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