Hi everybody,

I live abroad. My boyfriend is away. Last year he called me like 3 times on New Year's eve and this time he called me 1 hour late to wish me a Happy New Year. I was waiting for his call. It has cut my love, my passion.

What would you feel and is this normal ?

Thanks for your answers.

... depends on WHY he was one hour late.

Does your boyfriend know the proper time difference..

Maybe he was out with his friends and he couldn't get a proper cell service... or it was too noisy and he wanted it to be quiet before he talked to you..

With no background, and JUST this message you posted, I think you're overreacting. I had people text me "happy new year" in the morning... not at midnight.

One "off" phone call has caused your passion to dissolve?

Were there perhaps other events leading up to this moment? It's kind of hard to believe that a guy could make a phone call 1 hour late... and the relationship is doomed because of it. Or is there someone else on your end? There has to be more than just this.

Why didn't you call him?

How old are you?
Also, if something as being late for a phone call made your passion dissolve... how much feelings could you truly have for him.
And is there some deeper meaning to why him being an hour late bothered you sooooo much... past events?

Oh come on.. just an hour late and you give him crap for that ?

You even saying that he was away " maybe the time diffrent that he dont even know ...so that why ..

or he just too busy ....

as a matter of fact ..if you think he cheating on you or dont want to call you ? ..he wouldnt call you at all .....

so be gratefull ...sorry i have to be rude but that the true

as a matter of fact also ..why didnt you call him ? ..it new year you supposed to like " hey hon.. happy new year??

How long since you saw each other?

Hello guys,

Sorry for my English;

You're all right and thanks for replies... I am overeacting.

He was abroad with wife. Yes,he is married. Suppose it is my fault and I should'nt complain that he does not spend New Year's eve with me...

If you plan on having any more feelings for this guy, get used to all of this because he will never spend New Year's or any other holiday with you. So you might as well look for someone emotionally and physically available.

... abroad with wife. You get mad at the guy because he doesn't call...

I'm guessing, just a wild guess here... that he's... probably with his wife, and he can't take out his phone and go HEY HONEY, I KNOW IT'S THE NEW YEAR, BUT GIVE ME ONE SECOND. OK? I HAVE TO CALL MY GIRLFRIEND TO WISH HER A HAPPY NEW YEAR.

... seriously?

I am a bit not american...
Please, I accept all your insults because I fell in love with a married man.

I am just looking for advices. Last year it was our first year together we met 1,5 year ago and he called me 3 times at 12.00.

Now, it is different maybe with time passion fades away. Please do not criticize me...
Love happens where you cannot imagine.

Thank you.

If your mad now, wait until your birthday, or some other lonely moment. All the men in the world, and you settle for one who's married, and not even there?? Why are you putting yourself in this hopeless, unhealthy situation?? It ain't him, its you!!

I'm not insulting you. I agree, love happens in weird places at weird times.

However, going into the relationship with a married man, you should have assumed that you would be second. Always.

Many women who date married men go into the relationship and truly believe that the man will leave his wife for the new girl, but this is NEVER the case. This happens maybe one out of 100 times. That is 1% of the time.

What do you think will happen when you and his wife both want to spend valentine's day together?. who do you think he'll choose..

Sorry dear, but the fact is his wife comes first, and unless you want more disappointment and misery, you will move away from him, and get someone who offers you a healthier relationship. Maybe we can't help who we love, but we can help what we do about it. That's my ADVICE.

Ya... talaniman said it right. Of all the men in the world and you settled for one who is married and not even there.

You need not put up with the insults ever again if you rid yourself of this hopeless position. If it was not a married man you are with, perhaps people will be less judgmental when giving you advice. You know how it feels to be second in line. Im surprised you are making yourself get used to the idea.

It is not wrong to fall in love. But your love for a married man is making you love yourself less. Now... that is wrong.

I agree with you all.

For some months now, like 5 months I am feeling I am not loved enough. I know he will always choose his wife. I would never ask him to leave his wife as I do not want to break a relation ship.

So it is up to me now. I am a too sensitive person too depressive; How can I do it ?
How can I take the step towards saying "it is over now because I love you too much and now it is hurting me".

Please need other women's experience who have gone through this.

Thanks.

Read through some of the other threads dealing with affairs with married men. There are a lot of them.

Agreed he's with his wife find someone who's single

Although I was not in love with a married man, I was once in love with a man who double-timed. He courted his girlfriend and started a relationship in February. He then made me his girlfriend (or should I say back-up gf) in April.

Very depressing and emotionally-draining experience. But I was glad it is ALL OVER!
Ahhh... U want to know what I say to him to end this unfruitful relationship that sucked out my energy?

I said NOTHING. I just woke up one day and realized that I had enough of all the crap I'm putting up with. I just stopped myself from contacting him ever again. He tried calling and sending me text messages. I never pick up his calls and never read his texts.

The only thing that made me stop talking to him was to start talking to myself. Yes... how often do you talk to yourself?

Take time out and start chatting with yourself. Ask yourself questions and then give yourself answers. Say them out loud. Not in your heart (you will easily be depressed if you think things and not speak things that bother u).

The things that I tell myself are positive and encouraging words. When you adopt the positive attitude, even the worst situations can be changed into positive ideas. Some of the things you can tell yourself are:

I am good at *** (a hobby that is less common so that u feel u are different and proud of it, u can even say "sleeping").

Kids/ Friends/ Colleagues/ Siblings come to me for advice and they bring out the best in me. This means im quite useful.

I am single and available now. No more tears, no more waiting by the phone, no more impressing the guy. Why let a guy ask so much of me anyway? He should be doing the job, not me.

I am my own bestfriend. Who else can tell me who i really am besides myself? Who else can stick by my side from now till i die?

For all the years I've spent to improve myself, all the studying, the reading, the failures i learnt from, the chatting with elders etc.; why waste my talented self on a worthless man? My many years of self-growth must never be sacrificed. I am a valuable piece of gem that has been polished. I will not tarnish it again.

Probably, but I can't be certain, the only ones who will not get criticized at AMHD for "cheating" are Prince Charles, Princess Diana, and Bill Clinton; and we could include other celebrities.