Boyfriend being drunk

Please read the rules regarding the rating system. My information is my opinion and I haven't marked you, although I don't agree with your opinion.

Disagree with unfactual information. You do not disagree with a difference of opinion.

Best be seeing some one a councellor about your insecurity, causing your jelousy, Work on your self as you do not seem secure with yourself.

Perhaps a break will be hard and painful, but as you work through it, you will become stronger as an independently confident individual. You can achieve this by Learning how to love yourself, forgive yourself, respect yourself, know yourself, and finally being yourself.

Be sides, how can you know if you care about some one when you don't know yourself let alone if you care about your self. So take care of your self.

Peace and kindness be with you.

Why don't you try telling him about God? God can solve anything! You can be sure you are following the right route IF and only if you choose Jesus.

No offence CH, but you do not seem like some one who can help here, as you are far too fixed on your religion and not helping the OP (original poster).

Please give better advice and stop giving out red marks as the rules state you should have Facts/Proof to back your disagreance. If you disagree then put it in a Post, not the rating of others credibility. Other wise it makes you look like a fool, not us.

Thank you for your advice I"m sure she will look into GOD.

May peace and kindness be with you.

P.S. PLEASE READ THE RULES UNDER THE HELP HEADING!

So...

As for the ex, you've given no reason for why this is a problem outside of self esteem.

As for the drinking, you get to choose what you are willing to put up with. No judgements here.

But honestly, its pretty common that the "reason" people break up isn't really The Reason... There's other noise going on behind the scenes. Something not addressed. Not right.

So...

Is this really about his being drunk? Or is there something more? Have you been thinking about taking a break for some time? More details would help.

In the end you choose what is good and right for you. Some loves last. Some loves last for a time and not all time. Not sure I get where this relationship is... You seem off balance. Why is that? Has he given you reason to be? Have other bf's given you reason to be?

Step away from the drunk angle... What else is going on here or what else do you need that he isn't giving you?

No offense, but you are quickly getting banned here. We are a tight knit group of people on here, we all watch each other's backs very well. Your advice is not based on experience, but your own strict religious beliefs.


Btw, isn't it because of GOD, that people drink in church on Sunday's? I'm just saying. Also, where in the bible does it say drinking a lot is not good? Please PM me and tell me. I'm not a religious person so I want to be sure it says that

You need to think clearly and decide asap is he worth getting back with or do you want to get on with your life without him.
Sounds to me like he really does care for him to keep trying to call you. One day soon he might just give up and move on. Is that what you want or no?
You have to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision.

I have had a personal situation with somebody before. I got really drunk once. The person overreacted big time. Reality is I hardly drink. It is an occasional drink. Nothing wrong with it. Now I can only count a couple of times I got really drunk but to actually break up over this situation is a very very big over reaction. I also feel there is self esteem issues with you. If it is not the drinking you will find something else to find to break up what seems to be good most of the time, I am assuming.

So I think you need to realize that people are going to drink sometimes, I am also going to guess that the reason why your against drinking is because of a situation in your family or history some where a long the line.

The thing is you have to realize that just because somebody gets drunk does not mean that they will become an outright drunk. No it is not good that he can not remember anything.

Whenever things or issues come up like this in a relationship. You need to try to work through them. Have open communication and share with each other how you feel, what you like, what you do not like.

I do feel you overreacted, but now it is time to realize that no one is perfect, even though you may want it that way. Everybody has there moments and we are not in the army, ok.

I also suggest you seek counseling for yourself. There is nothing wrong with counseling many people feel that if it is suggested there is something majorly wrong. This is not the case. You just need to work through your feelings and insecurities and figure out why you feel so strongly about this situation.

Yes things should be done in moderation. Maybe this scare will help help him realize how scary it is not remembering things. It could push him either way, if you do not give him some slack and relax a bit. You may just push him further away. Do you want that?

K, so now it is up to you on what you do from here in out. I would say the majority here feels like you both were in the wrong here.

Open up the lines of communication and talk through things instead of throwing in the towel and ending it when things do not go your way.

Joe

Thanks everyone. You really helped me.

So I've been thinking and decided to talk to him yesterday. Everything was good. We didn't need a break and he apologized. And I also talked about the "ex". For the first time I felt good to tell him what I really think/feel about his ex. He said "cool, I'm going to delete everything related to her because there's really nothing to do with her anymore, I don't even care if she lives or dies".

Thats cool but somehow I still feel jealous at girls who stare at my boyfriend. And it sucks (

I read only page two of your thread, so I apologize if I come off as harsh or cover something that has already been covered. I had to skip a few posts as they screamed religion and the Lord Almighty as being able to help your lack of self confidence.

I have a hard time wondering why he cannot have his ex's name in his contact list. If I dated you and you threw a fit like this, I would have kicked you to the curb (once again, if I am missing something I am sorry). You ask way too much and you seem like a controlling person.

If you have a problem with people being drunk, then decide here and now if you want to date someone like that, or, get off of your high horse, and realize that things could be much, much worse. I think the issue is your purely jealous attitude and mentality, and I see this becoming a huge problem down the road. Instead of talking things out, you put things on a "break" for a day or two...that's mature.

The issue is deeper than drinking, and deeper than an ex being on a contact list...I just hope you can come to terms with this issue so it doesn't haunt every relationship you ever have.