My boyfriend is always broke

redhed35 · Dec 12, 2009, 08:41 AM

It would seem you would be better on your own, for lots of reasons,financilly,emotionally,your home life would improve,your health would improve and your mental state and probably your blood pressure!

So what do you have with him...what does he bring to the table?

Get rich quick schemes.

Black lungs.

Apathy.

Hes a drain on you..

So what are you going to do>
Continue supporting a leech.

You will survive with out him..he's abad habit you picked up that you just have to break.
Going no contact will help,and you will be surprised how many guys would love a good educated hard working women in their lives..

Dont waste your life or time on this guy any more...

Being on your own has a lot of benefits.

You just have to take the first step.

amicon · Dec 12, 2009, 09:43 AM

You're not an idiot but you need to put your own needs and those of your children first. This man is not a partner he's a leech and I advice you to find the strength to leave him and reclaim your own life. Be single and regain your selfconfidence.
Good luck.

talaniman · Dec 12, 2009, 01:01 PM

You need to leave him alone if he is that bad. Give it a try, or you will never have better until you do.

JBeaucaire · Dec 12, 2009, 03:38 PM

Read back your first post as if you hadn't written it.

Read it again.

Now tell me in three SHORT sentences why this boy is your "boyfriend". See if you can sell it in less than 30 words.

Can you? If not...well, it doesn't matter what your family thinks, you know what to do.

J_9 · Dec 12, 2009, 03:42 PM

This is a toxic relationship! By giving him money you are enabling this behavior.

You have teen children. They need you more than he does. Tell him to either get a job or take a hike.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 12, 2009, 04:17 PM

Well of course I guess we may have considered Bill Gates a bad choice when he was doing computers in his garage.

In the end of course he needs to get a job and work on his great rich during his time not working.

So just don't pay him a dime, period, nothing and see how long he is your boyfriend.

But you can do better with a homeless man, he at least begs for money on the street

Devorameira · Dec 12, 2009, 04:37 PM

Some may say he's a user (which he is), but I don't think it's important that he is or isn't using you. What is important is that you appear to be a kind and loving person and he does not.

In reality, your happiness is the only real important measure to be concerned about. Appears that your've busted your backside to make this guy happy, but he has done very little to make you happy. It is obvious that it's hurting your heart. I think you've tried to be patient and support him, but he's done nothing but live in a dream world.

One of the cardinal rules of all love relationships is that we can't change how other people think and behave, we can only change how we think and behave. In my opinion, it is a far better idea to cut your losses by ending this "going no-where" relationship, no matter how emotionally attached you may have become. He is definitely a loser!

starwarsgirl05 · Dec 13, 2009, 07:41 AM

Thanks for the replies from everyone! I moved out of his house this morning and I'm not sure how I feel right now. I feel grief, shock, and more grief. I know its the right thing to do in the long run...too bad I can't just ff my life by 30 days lol. I put this off because I didn't want to experience the pain. He was my best friend for over a year and we talked for hours everyday...that's going to be so hard to get over.

Devorameira · Dec 13, 2009, 07:47 AM

Starwarsgirlo5 you have made a wise decision. I know it's painful right now, but everyday it'll get better. There's another fella out there who will love you, respect you, and be an equal partner. Just give yourself time to heal before you go out looking for the new relationship.

My boyfriend is always broke

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