There was this boy.. My first love, I started dating him on September 23rd, 2009. He grew into my everything. At first, Our relationship was amazing. He always told me the truth, we never fought or argued. And he just treated me amazing. On December 23rd, 2009 he proposed to me. I know a little too sudden.. But we were truly, 'Love at first sight.' Suddenly, My parents started to fight CONSTANTLY. I have looked up to my father my whole life, I picked up his bad flaws. I have been through a lot through out my life and it effected my well being. I was insecure and negative. I ALWAYS started to accuse the boy of things he NEVER did. We would always fight over it. When we used to break up, he would always cry but was NEVER the one who broke up with me. Till I started accusing him more and more. I just didn't know how to stop. So he broke up with me every single time then come running back. We were violent, we would fight EVERY SINGLE DAY. Because of how I was... He was perfect but Ichanged him into a bad guy./: He loved me, and I just couldn't see it.. Well, One day about a month ago. I hugged one of my friends that used to like me. My boyfriend saw it and dumped me, because I used to jump on his *** ALL the time for talking to girls, I didn't let him have any girl friends at all. So he got mad because of my double standards. He said some hurtful things to me that day. And ever since he hasn't made the effort to talk to me.

Every time I called his house, It would just ring... Till one day I called and his dad cussed me out. When I tried talking to him at school, he would cuss me out and get mad at me. I thought maybe he was just mad at me and sick of everything. He told me he was sick of our relationship. He just doesn't act like I exist and I don't understand why. One day he loved me, the next I didn't mean anything to him. In school, he looks at me sort of but doesn't say anything to me. I asked him to be friends he said sure, but he don't talk to me. He still avoids me.. I really have been trying to change for him the past month. I have came a long way. He told me he isn't going to move on when I talked to him two weeks ago.. And he hasn't moved on at all. But I just don't understand what's going on. I still love him, and I still cry every time I think about thim. I dream about him, and I can't sleep. He is just my life. Literally. Please give me advice on what to do, or what's wrong with him.

My mother tells me to act like I don't care and pretend to be happy. I do that, for the past two weeks or so. And he still doesn't talk to me, just looks at me or looks for me but doesn't make it obvious. I just don't know. He plays mind games.. I miss him. </3

When I go up to him and try to talk he doesn't seem bothered, seems mad at me. I want him back more than anything.

Hey... so I know this might not be helpful at all... but if he is going to act that way he is not even worth it. I went through something similar to this two years ago... and something happened to me that I don't want to happen to you. I got CRAZY. I was constantly texting/calling/emailing him or trying to get information out of his friends. At first, when we were officially over... he had cried when I told him it might be hard to be friends... even though he was the one who said he didn't love me, I guess it was hard for him to just let go of any relationship between us cold turkey. But after I started practically stalking him like that... he didn't want anything to do with me. And he told me that. Over Facebook. He said that he didn't love me.. that he never would again... and to leave him alone because I was acting insane. He said he had no sympathy for the hurt he was causing me... and that it was my fault he felt that way. I just went back and found that email and I still feel like crying. I don't love him anymore... hes been dating someone else for over a year now. But what hurts is that its been over two and a half years since he has even acknowledged my presence... and we were eachothers first loves. It's a horrible feeling... and I didn't even know it could still hurt this bad after all that time. He won't even look at me. And I don't know you... but this is not something I want anyone to feel. So just let him cool off... our situations aren't really the same... he says he still loves you... so he probably does. Guys are selfish in that way... he can do things that you can't in his mind. I certainly wouldn't adivse you to let him think its okay that he orders you not to have guy friends... but if you don't want him to act this way.. than he should be able to have female friends. Just don't be irrational... dont annoy him... let him have some space. Don't call him anymore. If he loves you like he claims to then he will contact you. And if not... hes just another guy.

Hope this helps...

Love at first sight, or not... first love or not, leave him alone, and get on with improving yourself, so you don't poison the next relationship with bad behavior like you did this one. A terrible hard lesson to learn, but if you leave him alone, and carry on with your life, you both can move beyond this bad experience, and be better people.

Its hard, and will take time, but its better than trying to fix something that cannot be fixed, simply because he is through with it, and doesn't want to fix it. First love doesn't mean forever, or the only love you will have.

This one is over, so let it go! Sorry.

Leave him alone, he broke up with you! If he loves you, he will come after you, trust me! But if he doesn't then just remember you kept yourself respect and dignity and didn't go begging and pleading for him when he never wanted you! I know it's hard to just let go after you have been in a relationship for that long but sometimes you have too! I'm in the same situation as you, my ex boyfriend who was my first love broke up with me a few months ago and we were dating for a year and is acting like I don't excist and what's let me get through is not having contact with him anymore, it's hard for the first 2 months but it will get easier! I totally agree with what the 2 people before me said! Wise advice!

You made him this way , I'm sorry but the way you talking you kind of reminding me of my ex girl friend , the guy use to love you before but you the one who turn him into monster , so get the picture girl , he is not in to you , and you have to under standing something els too , whenever you ask a guy to break up with you , if you guys came back togetehr you won't find the things you use to love it in the first , so move on with your life , he is not into you.

So I'm in this situation as well. However I was with him for almost 3 years and we have a 1 year old baby girl. We had been fighting all the time ova the most ridiculous ishh. We now don't even speak unless it's about the baby, and even then he'll only talk if he's not out at the bars/partyin or whateva. So like everyone else has already said, but DON'T CONTACT HIM. I know it'll be hard but that's obviously what he wants, so give it to him. The more you think you're helping the situation by bearing your heart and soul to him, it will have the adverse affect. It will only look desperate, and that's not a good look... if he wants to work things out with you then HE will initiate things with you. And DON'T put pressure on him about giving you answers if he does decide to talk to you again. Just be the best person you can me, for you. Work on changing yourself and truly find a way to be happy without him. You have to be happy with yourself ALONE without him to TRULY be happy WITH him or anybody for that matter. Otherwise you and him will fall into the same destructive cycle as before...