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    kelly458 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 2, 2010, 12:57 AM
    My boyfriend abused me
    I'm 20.I m in a relationship with a man of 33 for the past 2 years.this is long but guys take a little time out for me please.ok so he did everything he can to make me fall in love with him.I agreed.initially he was like the best boyfriend a girl can ever have.he used to understand me bettr than my mom and anybody else.but since last 3 to 4 months he abuses me like s#@$.the other day he called me a prostitute,bi#@$,n words which I can't even write here.but I want to make him realise his mistake and teach him a lesson.he wants me to leave him because all he wanted was sex.he even promised to marry me and he was totally committed.but as you can see... things are not the same now.ii am so hurt icant even describe to anyone.I am abused emotionally,pscyologically and mentally, I can't concentrate on any damn thing but his abuses.please help me... please.
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    Feb 2, 2010, 01:28 AM
    He's not the person you thought he was and now he's showing his true colours.
    Forget about teaching him a lesson and hoping he'll change.

    Time to leave him. Seek the help of family and friends.

    Abuse escalates and you need to get out before this happens.
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    Feb 2, 2010, 02:29 AM

    Don't ever think of getting back with this man on any cost or teaching him a lesson. The earlier you leave him the better for you. Ami is right if you need any help just go to your friends and family.
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    Feb 2, 2010, 08:40 AM

    Ok? He calls a prostitute.Are you? You are not.
    Would you allow me to call you this?NO
    And the one you love, who is supposed to protect and respect you does.
    It makes sense to you?He doesn't worth anything if he 's abusing you like this.don't think of what he does or if he's learning a lesson from all this!
    He's 33 now I think he should've have learned how to treat a woman already.
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    Feb 2, 2010, 08:45 AM

    Leave this poor excuse for a man now, he has already shown his true colors. Get rid of him!
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    Feb 2, 2010, 09:11 AM

    Kick him permanently out of your life by any means necessary, and you will no longer be abused.
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    Feb 2, 2010, 09:58 AM

    The first thing is to tell someone,your family your friends,abusers don't like other people knowing what their really like and are usually cowards.

    The next thing is to end it,if your afraid of his reaction,have someone to trust close by.

    If he starts crying,abusing you,getting rough, you can get help.

    At 33 I'm going to assume he has had a long line of abusive relationships,I'm betting he has a few stories about exs who were horrible mean and god only knows what... makes you think why he chased after a much younger women,I'm guessing because women his own age saw right through him and didn't give him a second thought.

    That's not a bad reflection on you,he knows the game,and knows how to work the romantic switches.

    He's an abuser,and you're the victim,time to get help, tell someone and get out of that relationship.
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