Ok my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost two years. I love his family and his family loves me. Everything is good except he never wants to talk on the phone anymore and he never wants to do anything . Sometimes he treats my like crap like when i call him he answers the phone saying "what do you want?" and he always tells me what to do (im not saying i listen to what he says) but it annoys me . I love him to death but some things are getting to me. This Saturday he is turning 18 and he and his friends are going to a strip club... really no big deal but the thing is ok im bisexual and he wants a 3 sum w/ me and a friend and i wouldnt mind its just he keeps bugging me about it. Ive told him how i feel but he just doesnt seem to get it and i need to know what to do ... If you can help please do!!!

lickemlolly

what do you want??..sounds like your being too clingy back off some and it definatly sounds like he is losing interest so as wildcat would say become less available make him not take you for granted bc right now he thinks you will always be there so find things to do away from him...have some fun go out with your girlfriends and try not calling for a while...dont pick up the phone everytime he calls..make him wonder well wow maybe she wont always be around i need to treat her better...find SOMETHING to do outside of him...and if he really cares about you then you will see a change and he will come around

Wildcat21

Your problem is YOU. Yes, you are very needy-clingy.

Your boy friend is NEVER your life - NEVER. Only a small part of it.

He takes you for granted and treats you bad because you are way too available. You're always there for him.

You need OTHER things in your life - school, work, family, FRIENDS, working out, hobbies - ALL of these are equally as important as your boy friend.

You need these instead of him - you put all this empathsis on one freaking guy who treats you like crap - WHY? That's NOT a life.

He treats you like crap because YOU allow it - you WAY too needy of him AND HE HATES IT!!! Back off - give him space.

See - he holds ALL the cards over you - ALL THE POWER in your relationship because you allow it!!!

See him LESS - less is more. You should never have to see him every day - that's WAY too much. I bet $100 you call him all the time every day all day - text. Guys hate that! They hate it!

You are only asking for massive heart ache, which is avoidable. You don't really need him.

Your are NOT a challenge - his interest level has droped a lot.

The more you act needy-clingy - the more he WILL pull away.

mike145k

first thing to do is get in the shower and wash the dirt off let that be a symbolic gesture,a sort of baptisim,and by doing this admitting to yourself that your life is a mess,your choices are not good ones,and from now on you will change become a person who doesnt need to use her body to find a mate or to be like the jane down the street ready to do any boy she see's,also your being a bisexual disturbs me i think you should stop doing that it goes against the human nature of things and when you cast away your old self the better you will know how to live a happier life

lickemlolly

omg her sexuality is her own business..this is a forum yes but she didnt ask for advice on being bisexual that is HER choice and she doesnt need someone preaching to her about it...if you dont agree then thats fine but keep your opinion to yourself...ugh...

shenda

when you invite someone to live out a fantasy, make sure you are ready to deliver...he is blowing you off in an attempt to speed up the process...the infamous threesome; however, before you act upon this...prepare yourself for whatever comes after...most times, fantasies are at best fantasies, going into it, he is all for it; however, the actual fulfillment will definitely change his opinion, respect for you. Are you prepared to be seen as one who will do anything. Reputation VS Respect...you are the one who must choose. Choose wisely becasue no matter what you decide, you must live with the consequences of it...the duration and extent of the consequence will vary, be prepared to live with your decision. If it is merely an act to attract your beloved, don't bother, for his behavior is as one having a temper-tantrum therefore teaching him how to treat you. If this is something that excites you and you want it, then know that your reward has been met with the pleasure of your desire, again do not be naive, do not let yourself be deceived. Make sure that this is what you want to do, and not what you want to do for him. Make it personal, to thine own self ALWAYS remain true.

dontoschaasia

Hi I Feel The Same Way. Me And My Man Has Been Going Out About Four Years And Now He Don't Want To Do Anything With Me All He Want To Do Is Hang Out With His Boys. It's Sad Cause We Have A Little Girl And She Is Just One That Is Why I Don't Want To Leave Him Alone. We Have Sex About Three Times Out Of The Week At The Most But When We Have Sex It Is All About Him Not About Me And I Really Not Liking That And The Sex Really Aint Good

mike145k

what do you expect from him look at yourself i bet you gained a ton of wieght and you let yourself go if you want your man to want you make an effort to look good

NeedKarma

My guess is that you are a pimply 17 year old (with no friends) whose mommy didn't hug him so now the world will pay.

Good luck!

lickemlolly

you are just too much..that is hilarious...i about fell out of my chair at work...and hint mike the know it all ..just because you have a baby doesnt mean you ruin your body...i look fabulous and women tell me all the time...wow it doesnt look like you just had a baby how did you do it...i weighed the same after i had the baby as i did before...since youre all knowing about pregnancy...i wonder if youd appreciate childbirth if you had to do it yourself...learn some respect