bored

sarahg903 · #1 Apr 1, 2006, 09:45 PM

I've been in this relationship w/ a guy for 7 mos. and every now and then i ask myself why am i still with him, especially b/c ill be going away to college next year. we were talking today and he told me he really doesnt want to be in a relationship b/c of the obligations but he still wants to be with me. we definately love each other, although i know people will be skeptical at that statement. i personally just think we're bored and i need some ideas on how to spice things up a bit, and some new things to try. please help

rkim291968 · Apr 1, 2006, 10:20 PM

I am assuming you two will be physically separated when you go to college, no? If so, it will sort itself out. College is full of intersting people of your age. And when two people don't see each other for some time, they tend to drift away anyway.

It sounds like you need someone who can constantly keep things going. It would be rare to find such partner. Good luck, though.

ahuvakapon · Apr 2, 2006, 04:17 AM

dear sarahg903
at your age, and after only 7 months , i wouldnt think you should be bored or that you need to do something special to spice things up. so:maybe you dont belong together?
someone is definitely waiting especially for you, somewhere.
good luck,
together

fredg · Apr 2, 2006, 05:13 AM

Hi, sarah,
Congratulations on going away to college next year; you will never regret going to college!
This will be a time of meeting others, having a good time while you get a higher education, and learning about life; things you never knew, every day.
Many yrs ago, I start at a University at age 20, (went to a community college for 2 yrs). Lost my "true love" to another man while at the U.
For now, there really isn't anything you can do to "spice up" your relationship. If it's not going well, it will take some time to see if it was really meant to be.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

Starman · Apr 3, 2006, 05:21 PM

He really doesn't want a relationship but still wants to be with you?

fredg · Apr 4, 2006, 06:19 AM

Hi,
This boy does not want to be involved in any kind of relationship right now; either sexual, or whatever. He doesn't want to be "tied down" to just one person.
Move on with your life, and hope for the best. Eventually, if he really does love you, he will want more later; but not now.



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