So my birthday is on Monday...and my BF and I are currently on a "break.." For those who haven't read my story....in a nutshell.......10 month relationship....up and down, he's pretty (very) selfish...but I love him and continue to put up with it....Have taken breaks before, but this time he says he feels different. He wants to see if he can be happier with someone else...etc...etc....but wants me to give him 2 weeks to see if he "misses me"....(he said if I need an answer now, then it is over, but he would like for me to give him the time..) I am dying most of the time, but have managed to get through this week with NC whatsoever (on either part...) Question....my birthday is Monday....considering it's within the "2 week" span, what should I be thinking? Part of me wants him to call....thinking maybe that's a sign that he doesn't want to let me go.....part of me thinks if he doesn't, maybe he has found happiness away from me.....This is awful. I miss him and truely want a healthy relationship with him.....AND WANT HIM BACK....BUT I also understand that if it is ever to work, he's the one who needs to realize things and work for me to come back to him. It can't be from me....I certainly have tried everything else. I am just anxious about how this all turns out....and my heart is hurting. If he doesn't call on Monday, does that mean I should assume he's really gone, even though it hasn't been that long?? What to do???!!!

Rina _4

If he really loves you then he would not be asking you for 2 weeks away from you. I think he wants to give you 2 weeks to forget about him. I would definitely not wait for his call on Monday, the day of your birthday. In fact you should be making plans to go out and have fun on your birthday. He sounds very selfish, asking for 2 weeks when he knows your birthday is within the 2 weeks span. You should consider moving on with and find new friends because life is too short.

Happy Birthday.

lulu2912

I agree. If he asks you for two weeks then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. You should make your own plans for your birthday and don't include him in any part of it. I know you love him, but you should be with someone who truly cares about you. That person is out there, but you will never find him if your stuck on this person!

talaniman

Wait your turn until he is thru with his new hunny bunny, Be patient.

diya

Your birthday is a special time for you and why spoil it over those who don't consider it special anymore....hard truth...let's say you've got a new life on the day.....welcome it with open arms and forget about those who make you feel miserable...ur deserve better treatment than this...right?? All the best....

gypsy456

you want him back so he can continue to be selfish and treat you like a doormat ?
ah... that makes sense.

you are celebrating your birth day....
a new period in your life....
move on.

this does not sound like the most ideal person to be with.

but hey... if you like a selfish man then I think you have found the right one !


Happy Birthday !

Rina _4

Some times when we are in love with some one, we become blind to the point that the people we love take advantage of us and day after day we live not noticing what is wrong or right with our relationships. We must step out and look from the outside to realize what's really going on- on the inside.

I hope every body's message here helped you find the light and just in time for you to make those plans to enjoy a new beginning on a special day- Your Birthday. Go out with a positive attitude and with expectancy of a bright future.