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In saying that its great to be a friend but if you want to get in with a girl you have to be the right friend!! If you thinkyou can be the friend who is like agirlfriend and get in NO WAY!!!!
But if you can be the guy friend who is not available for the crap shoulder to cry on but the FUN friend who she always wants to be around but is always busy thn YES!!!!!
If you wnt a girl dont ever become the NICE friend or she will see you as just that a FRIEND while some hrk off sweeps her from under you!!!
Mckenzie said it perfectly. I speak from experience that you should not be a best friend to a girl before you date her. NEVER be the nice guy that she can spill everything to and you do everything for her. Be a man. There's a difference between being a boyfriend and being friendzoned, and once you are in the friendzone, it's very hard to get out.
Read some of my old threads and you'll find out all about where being a nice guy gets you. I'm learning myself that I need to stick up for myself more.
I agree completely. As a female voice here. The guys that have "pulled me" (lol that so funny to me) who started as friends were my crazy fun guy friends. The guy I could always call to go do something fun. That guy established himself as the guy who was into getting to know me but was not there as a shoulder to cry on. He was nice but not a doormat. The friendships were always high energy (its the best way to describe it). Lots of banter back and forth and flirting. They were also guys I could depend on which is important because that leads to a girl going hey, I have lots of fun with him, we flirt and I can depend on him maybe we should kick this up a notch!
However I would like to say that if the romantic relationship does not work the friendship dies. It always does and it is for the best.
To be friends you need to get to know each other and the best way to get to know each other is to go out and do things together. When you ask her if she wants to go to a movie or to the mall, that is a date. All dates don't need to be romantic sexual dates. The best dates are relaxing dates that flow, where your both doing what feel right at the time. It could be holding hands as you walk around the mall or in a movie and that could lead to a kiss and so on. If it happens in it's own time it will be special.
In a nut shell enjoy being around her. If the two of you get along and start doing things together then let time lead you into a relationship. You can't force a relationship and make it work, it never will.
Is it better to be friends with a girl first before you ask her out or is it better to pull her as soon as you meet her ?
friends because then she will feel comfortable being around u and when the moment is right u will know then u will ask her out but do not aask her out before then because i should know i am a girl it happened to me before
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I find that women don't really last too long single. They generally tend to hop from boyfriend to boyfriend, and usually its within a circle of friends. So my short answer is yes, you should probably be friends with her first.
A this isn't a race
B you don't know what you're getting yourself into
C this is mostly gonna be her decision not yours
D have some confidence, she'll figure out you're cooler than anybody else for herself.
Women want what they can't have. I recently began seeing somebody new seriously, and all the girls that couldn't give me the time of day when i was interested are now looking for any excuse possible to call me. I don't get it. Women don't get it. They don't deny it either, so officially, nobody gets it. Be a disinterested friend for a while and see what happens.
whenever I become friends with a guy first I keep it that way. I have had guys start off as my friend and then try to cross the line. This only results in them no longer being a friend because they crossed the friendship line.
I think you can get to know somebody slowly but always let it be known that you are interested in being more than friends. Of course it is usually easier if you don't get intimate while you figure things out.
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