So the saga continues and this morning I finally told myself enough is enough. I know some of you are familiar with my story but basically I finally told my EX whom I love with all my heart - "don't call me anymore until you know what you want". We've been doing the I don't know what I want crap for over a month meanwhile she goes out with this guy who she knows she has no future with. I came to this decision and I told her flat out "I have to do this for me, don't call me anymore until you know what you want".

Any ideas on what will/could happen? Thanks for all your support and guidance over the last few months.

Jesushelper76

From this post, I think personally you made the right decision.

It is important to do what is best for you and your ex needs to make decisions best for them.

The back and forth and going out with different people. Obviously she does not know what she wants.

Yes, you did the right thing and as far as what could and will happen, who really knows. Just live your life and not worry about her anymore.

Joe

Fr_Chuck

Remember you telling them not to call you does not mean they won't, so you may have to be strong enough not to answer thier calls either.
Ex's will call just to mess with you because they can and want to.

Chery

Telling you what we think will happen in the future is like expecting us to look into crystal balls. Sorry, but mine broke when I was old enough to realize that there is no guarantee in any relationship. We can trust and hope for the best, but that still does not wind up being a sure-thing.

Is this the girl you 'talked' about since July? Well,then I can 'guess' what might happen - and believe me it's not good for you.

This yoyo life your are leading is going to make you physically and mentally sick.

I suggest you dismiss this chapter in your life and get a new perspective, if you can forget your obsession.

You could ask yourself one question... what will your life be like without all the trouble you've experienced through this particular relationship?

It's your choice to make, and I wish you all the best. Keep us posted.

Righthearted

Thanks. We talked before and she said that I would be the one she'd marry and settle down with but that she's confused and doesn't know right now if she can make that committment. By me telling her this now she has to come to grips and realize that she can't yo-yo me anymore and really has to evaluate things. And believe me I'm totally okay with things there's no turmoil/down in the dumps poor me stuff anymore. I've already been down that road.

We'll see what happens I guess.

Jesushelper76

That is all you can do. You need to let it go and she needs to get all her stuff together. It is better you do this now, instead of it happening while your together, or married or worse have kids as well. You do not want it to happen then. It is better you do it now. Which you did. So please do not wait to see what happens. Just go on and do your own thing now.

Righthearted

I completely agree with you.

nicespringgirl

I think many ppl need to learn to speak like you do!
Good job, short, simple and clear!

Righthearted

Thanks.

Righthearted

"Which you did. So please do not wait to see what happens. Just go on and do your own thing now."

I completely agree. What if she contacts me and wants to get back together.