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Britawny · Jan 24, 2009, 09:08 PM

Ok first things first I am having a guy problem... I met the guy through mutual friends we went clubbing together and one thing led to another... we ended up sleeping together and everything was fine the next morning... he said hed call but didn't and I realized that it was a one night stand, but just wanted friendship, so my best friend called and told him I wasn't looking for a relationship only friendship, he immediately called and talked to me... we became good friends... but then he started dating my best friend the one who called him... which I am fine with.. well the one night me and him rode to the store to get something and ended up sleeping together again and Im not sure of how to handle the situation?. what should I do??

Gernald · Jan 24, 2009, 10:21 PM

Er... break it off! He's going out with your best friend. You've probably been friends way longer with her than him and if he's dumb enough to sleep with two different people and think that it's okay he's kind of a jerk and you're a bad friend for letting it happen.

That being said. Talk to him and tell him that you want nothing to do with him (friendship or otherwise, if you think you'll end up in bed with him again). Once you're done with that conversation try not to let you're best friend find out. On the other hand, if you're the truthful type (or she finds out, which she probably will) tell her the truth and tell her how sorry you are for betraying her trust like you did. Then, I would go on to explain how your friendship means more to you than some stupid guy and hope she forgives you.

Sorry it's not the best answer in the world but it's an attempt.

Good luck and I hope everything turns out okay!

talaniman · Jan 25, 2009, 08:17 AM

So you let him make you a friend with benefits, That's your problem not his, and your friend is probably in the same boat.

You and your best friend need to compare notes as your both being used, willingly I might add.

My advice stop having sex with strangers, and friendship doesn't include sex with a friends boy toy.

Romefalls19 · Jan 25, 2009, 09:16 AM

Once again, I will say this, if you cannot open your mouth to him, you shouldn't open your legs.

Fizzy Burst · Jan 25, 2009, 09:31 AM

If a guy knows that he can do something like that and get away with it, then he is going to keep doing it. If you tell him that this is something you can't do anymore, then you need to stand your ground. Chances are that he'll take this as a challenge (you playing hard to get). He's probably going to keep trying until he gets the picture or you give in. If he knows that he can get it, he's going to try his hardest to keep doing it. What he's doing isn't right, and you are just enabling his behaviors and actions right now.