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Being nice seems to get you nowhere. (rant?)
Asked Mar 17, 2007, 07:11 PM
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19 Answers ARGGGG Maybe I'm just in a bad mood tonight..but, it seems like being nice is the wrong thing to do in almost ever situation. I would describve myself as a nice guy, have been for as long as I can remember. I do not enjoy confrontation, though I will engage if I must. I like to debate, though I hate arguments and fighting...senseless if you ask me. I would also not do anything to intentionally cause harm to anyone, and carry very few grudges/enemies. I am annoyed tonight beucase it seems that all this niceness gets me nowhere. I figured that its what most people, and women, would want. Why wouldn't they want someone who will be nice to them, and to care for them? I find myself in question, thinking that the reason I am no longer with my ex girlfriend is because I was too nice, and she had lost interest in me. I also seem to find it strange that the friends of mine which are seen as attractive to most women, are the a**holes. Could it just be my age (20), and when I get older the women will be more mature? I hate to think that I have to be an jerk to people in order to get anywhere in life. I understand that there is a difference between being nice and being a push over, and I would not consider myself one who is easily pushed over. When I want something, I will do whatever I have to do to get it, I don't allow myself to be pushed aside easily... Maybe I'm just upset tonight, and I need someone to hear me yell...I don't know.. I give up |
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| I for one believe that part of the problem with our society is that weomen's values have dropped. I find that men will usually play whatever role it takes to get the woman. For some strange reason weomen want thugs. Then when they get one and they do thuggish things to them the women are quick to say that there are no good men in the world. My advice to you is don't deal with women that are only interested in thugs. If you really like this girl try to explain to her how you feel if it doesn't work then move on. In the end you will save yourself a lot of hurt, heartache, and embarassment. | ||||
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| Here are two sites that present some theories on the matter: Fast Seduction 101: Art of Pick-up and Seduction Dating Tips - Secrets To Attracting and Meeting Women You'll have to decide for yourself the merits of the information. | ||||
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| Women do not want thugs. Women want nice men. That's like me saying all men want big-breasted lapdancers. Oh wait - they do!  | ||||
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| Well personally, I've been treated badly by guys all my life. My father was abusive and my boyfriend's were all in it for only a few stupid reasons. Many women have delt with these things. And some even have had it worse then other's. So they deal with the ''crap'' so they don't have to be alone, sometime's they even blind themselves to what they really need. I want a guy who's nice. Respectful of me and my thoughts. I want someone who can make me happy and not treat me like his ''ho''. So would I date a ''thug'' heck freaking no. I want a softspoken, maybe shy, sweet and tender guy. Not a wimp. Not a geek who can't relate. Just an all around nice guy who loves me for me. I have one finally after 20 yrs of heck. That's what most girl's who are ready for a long-term relationship want. I'm sure there's a chick out there for yeah who want's a man who's caring and loving and into her mind and heart more then here nice boobs and ars . Good luck. Oh and I just wish that Mr. Nice guy would have came around sooner. Go to parties (not crazy one's) go out places and get to know people. You could meet your match where you least expect it to be.
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| Raye - a bet a $1 million that the 'nice' guy you want doesn't turn you on - you also need a hot sexy guy. The nice guy is too much of a whimp. | ||||
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| Sypher - it's abput growing a spine and learning to say NO to her every once in a while. I bet a $1 million you're alwasy trying to please her - being all agreeable - always looking for her approval. That's all bad for busy. Get mad at her sometimes....start a debate....SAY KNOW WHEN YOU MEAN NO! Get a spine - this is part of growing up. Time to evict the 'nice guy' - learn to become a 'good guy' - a guy who has a great life - you don't care wha tshe thinks all the time - you're busy a lot - you don't alwasy have to be with her. | ||||
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| Wildcat, I know what you mean about being a good guy, and maybe that's the way I should have written the post. I meant that more as a good guy than a nice guy. It seems like women like men who treat them badly. I don't mean badly as in not agreeing with them, I mean badly as in not treating them with respect. I understand that I can't always try to please someone, but I also understand there is a way to do things while being respectful. I don't think its necessary to be disrespectful when being independent and strong...maybe I'm wrong | ||||
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