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Old Mar 28, 2003, 04:02 PM
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being a grandmother

will i ever get to meet a grandchild i was never able to be a part of???
our son got married against our wishes...his wife has never liked us..never tried to get to know us...
i have tried many times to get back together with my son..but he wants nothing to do with us...they have been married 5 years now the first year they got married things seemed to be okay...i got upset with him one time on the phone and things have never been the same......
he lives with the in-laws..and a year ago we found out that we were grandparents..only because i saw my so call daughter in-law at the mall holding the baby..they never told us they were expecting....
i'm tired of always going and looking for my son and getting the cold shoulder from him..will i ever see my son again????
can't stop thinking about him and missing him...
i'm so depressed...i have no one to talk to ...i'm not close to anyone in my family.this is why i'm reaching out this way..my husband just tells me to pretend your son is dead..and get on with life...
this is not possible..can anyone give me an answer to what i can do to get my son back...

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Old Apr 1, 2003, 09:44 AM   #2  
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Re: being a grandmother

You must put aside your past issues and resentments and somehow let him know that you are supportive of him in the life he is persuing. I cannot say much more as you did not give much to go on.
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Old Apr 4, 2003, 01:08 PM   #3  
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Re: being a grandmother

Your son has issues he needs time to deal with...he may or may not come around...in the mean time you are losing special time with your grandson. Parents who decide to keep "their children" away from spouses and grandparents are truly mean spirited in my opinion. It is unfair to the child and they will grow up to resent that ...big time. You may think about this....Most all states have grandparental rights...go to the freind of the court and apply for them....you are entitled to visitation...whether your children like it or not.
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Old May 14, 2003, 10:49 PM   #4  
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Re: being a grandmother

First of all your husband needs to change his attitude and if wants no part of your son's life that is his problem don't give up, blood is thicker than water and you have to know your son loves you, but he's hurt and maybe you need too take the first step in talkinng to him and letting him know you made a mistake and you want to make things better and that you want to be part of his life, grandpa will come around once he sees that grandchild......................A mothers love is never forgotten....................and your children always need you no matter what, they just sometimes find it hard to accept it and act on it.. Good luck and God bless
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Don't ever let pride or delicacy stand in the way of your family...write to him and tell him you are still there whenever he wants to talk and that you would love to meet your grandchild. Do not mention or criticize his wife, but continue to keep in touch with him, and he will respond eventually...don't give up!
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