Hey, if this is in the wrong forum... please move it for me! Thanks

So my boyfriend of over a year has a 2 year old son. The mother of his child has on many occasions acted crazy since he left her. A few examples of her behavior: Showing up at his apartment drunk, threatening to kill herself. Telling him if he doesn't raise the child with her then she will put him up for adoption (which we know she really couldn't do without his consent). Calling/ texting me with threats... etc, etc, etc. (not to mention she stopped taking her birth control pills in order to get pregnant by him... which she HAS admitted to both my boyfriend and her own mother). - oh, and her mother placed her in outpatient therapy at a mental institution for a week because even she thought her daughter needed help.

Most of her wild behavior happened within the first 5 months of our relationship, however she finally moved on and found a new boyfriend around that time and cooled off, somewhat. Recently, she sent my boyfriend an e-mail asking him to "let his son go" among other things. She also said that she would ignore his phone calls so that he won't be able to get his son until she says so (even though there is an agreement through the court that my boyfriend may have his son 2 weekends a month, and all he has to do is give her 24 hours notice). He wrote her back, telling her that she would be in contempt of court if she did not comply with the agreement, and that his son will always be his son, regardless of if she wants him to have a different father. He also mentioned that his son is not a bargaining chip for her to use whenever she is mad at him.

Well, two weeks went by and there was no word from her, until today. She sent my boyfriend and e-mail asking him if he would sign his rights away to his son. Honestly, I think she is just doing it to get a rise out of him, but I just wonder what the best way to handle this is? Should he just write her back and say "No" and leave it at that? I am afraid that if he says anything hateful, she will try to go back to court and use the e-mail against him, however he is extremely mad about this and of course wants to say what's on his mind. Or does he not say anything back and leave her to wonder?

Thanks for your help, and like I said - if this is in the wrong forum, please move it for me.

He needs to hire a lawyer and have all communication done through a third party. He also needs to keep all these emails and any messages left on his machine that show her true intentions and lack of character. I'm not even close to being a lawyer but I'd think the courts might eventually see what is truly going on here if this kept being presented. But it sounds like this matter is out of his hands and he's going to need to consult with a lawyer to get some answers.

If I was him I'ld simply not respond. He should'nt go by what she says, as far as him getting to see his son, since there is a court order. If she tries anything different then what the order saids, it might be time to go back back to court. He should also save any emails or messages from her in case it needs to be use against her. As far as her wanting him to sign his rights over, don't worry she can't make him;unless, she proves he's unfit, which it sounds like she is.In KY her are the some reasons for having your rights terminated:
*Abuse/Neglect

*Mental Illness or Deficiency
*Alcohol- or Drug-induced Incapacity
*Felony Conviction/ *Incarceration
*Failure of Reasonable Efforts
*Sexual Abuse
*Abuse/Neglect or Loss of Rights of Another Child
*Failure to Maintain Contact
*Failure to Provide Support
*Failure to Establish Paternity
*Child Judged in Need of Services/Dependent
*Child's Best Interest
*Felony assault of child or sibling
*Murder/Manslaughter of sibling child
*Other Grounds
• Aggravated circumstances

You know what they say to kids, if you ignore them they will stop. It applies here. She is trying to get a rise out of him. He doesn't need to respond to anything other than court related papers. She is hurt and will most likely keep this up until she grows up and truly moves on. Some people learn/heal slower than others. I agree with the comment above to keep all emails as documentation and also if possible record the dates and the comments she makes to bring with you should you need to go to court. I would suggest that you follow through with all visitation, child support and stay in the child's life. You never know what extreme some people will go to when hurt. If her behavior doesn't improve and you want custody of the child. Perhaps making her the non-custodial parent could be in the best interest of the child?

He should tell her no, and continue to get his son for the weekends he's allowed. Hopefully, he is good at controlling himself. If he can keep from blowing up at her, especially in front of the kid, then go that way until she does something else. If he can't control his anger enough not to give her a piece of his mind, then someone, maybe you if you can be unbiased, needs to sit down with him and he can write a letter telling her no, and why. Make sure it is not bashing her, just written out of concern for the child and how he wants to be able to be there for his son and provide for him, be a good father, etc. As a warning, if you do the letter wrong, she could definitely use it against him, so either be very careful, or do as a previous poster suggested and hire a lawyer (which might be the best move anyway, just to get everything out in the open and over with). Best of luck.

Just say no, and stay cool.

Thank you all so much!

He wrote her back and simply said "No." He also told her the weekends he wanted his son during July so that she has ample notice.