I need to help my boyfriend but I don't know how... he had two friends commit suicide one week from each other about 9 months ago, well, lately he's been going to the grave, drinking, and crying. These were like brothers to him. He talks to me and I do my best, but yesterday I had to call the cops and get him to a hospital because he put a gun to his head (locked&loaded) before he left he looked at me like I was the worst person in the world..he even took my key and I was stuck outside from 3am-11am (had manager open door) but I don't know why he's mad, I just wanted to help. Did I do a bad thing by calling the cops?? I'm not sure, I love him and we plan to get married one day but I don't know if I can handle this. He's still at the hospital but I know him, he's just telling them what they want to hear..What should I do?? If it matters or helps, they were 20-21yrs old, he's 21

dragonlilly

one friend hung himself on july 4th, the other did the same one week later, i can't talk to his mom because he doesn't want me to, said it would stress her out, he said he keeps thinking of there mom and how they feel, i had friends pass by different ways (murder, accidents,cancer) so i know the feeling but i am against the wall in this one, i dont want to leave him alone, but i dont want to lose him...my mind is so confused..he told me what the doctors said and he just lied to them, so how can i get him help if he's just going to lie..

talaniman

I can understand the frustration of not knowing what to do and not being able to help. he doesn't want help, or he wouldn't lie about this. Back off him, for the good of you both, and that goes for the family also.

I fear you will do more harm than good. Seek the counsel of a very trusted adult. Really soon, like yesterday, as you are not able to do this alone!!!!!!!!!!

you_know

You sound like a good strong girlfreind. You should just be there for your b/f if ever he needs you even if its 2 in the morning. I mean thats what we are for. Women are good at that. I think he does need some help dealing with death is a hard subject. You can call the suicide hotline or tell his parents that way its not to stressful for you.