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Yesterday I called my boyfriend when I got off work. He asked me if I wanted to go jogging with him when I got home. I told him I would go. Then he saws are you really going to jog? Like he was basically saying that he wanted to jog without stopping, no walking or anything. I told him I would still go but I don't know if I'll be able to jog the entire way (He wanted to jog a mile nonstop and back home). Then he says you can't be playing around like last time (I wasn't playing last time, I was really tired of running) And he was saying it like I was some child (but he said he wasn't being mean) but I instantly got mad and told him that I didn't want to go and he can go by himself. He thinks just because I'm 22 and he's 30 I should be able to jog a mile without stopping. I don't think age has anything to do with it. I didn't talk to him the entire day. I was going to apologize but he started giving me attitude, so I thought forget it.
I was already having a messed up day. I was bored as crap at work, can't find a permanent job cause nobody wants to hire, then he got a situation going on with him. All those feelings kinda just got balled up into one.
It wouldn't hurt to be the bigger person and still apologize. Maybe once you say you're sorry he'll say he's sorry for giving you an attitude. I'm also guilty of taking frustrations out on people. Getting better at it, one day at a time. It helps to take step back from the situation when you start to feel angry and approach things logically. Usually when I have a bad day I tell my husband right off the bat, and apologize in advance for any attitude I give him and that I don't mean to.
Next time he gives you a hard time about not jogging the whole way, just tell him to keep jogging and you'll walk when you start to get tired. That way you at least started out together but you continue at your own pace. Eventually you'll be able to keep up with him better.
It just sounds like a misunderstanding. If you get tired, he shouldn't expect that you continue running. You just have to talk it out with him and explain that you can't run at the same pace he does without doing more training yourself. So if he wants to run with you, he has to realize that he has to run at your pace. Just talk it out so this doesn't become a bigger issue.
you told him you would go. But did you really want to go in the first place or were you just agreeing to it for his sake and fear he wouldnt think you care if you dont go?
sounds as though he's on a mission out jogging and its important to him, which in turn i think he expects it to be equally as important to you too, for yourself i mean.
your right though,its not necessarily age, its fitness levels, you need to tell him that your fitness levels arent as high as his obviously are and that in order for you to keep up the pace, it will take you a while to do that, so as someone else said, for him to go on ahead if you start slacking.
if you really dont want to go, then tell him that and explain why. you need to comunicate with each other.
he's obviously hurt your feelings with the way he reacted to you, just be honest and calmy tell him that it hurt your feelings and then tell him what you want to do. And no an apology wouldnt go a miss, it may make him understand.
Its hard to compromise when you are having a bad day. Once your emotional dust settles you will see things more clearly.
While he may seem a bit cold about being your jogging partner, maybe you could do some work in that area yourself, and be a better jogger on your own, its great stress relief, but as a shared thing with your partner, you obviously aren't that motivated as he is. If its just not your thing, you catch him after he has his run, but don't pretend you enjoy it.
I did apologize to him this morning. He said it was fine, but no he didn't apologize to me. I also asked him what was wrong with us starting off running together and if I get tired I'll walk? And then start back up. He said no stopping at all, so I said I wouldn't be able to do that and stayed home. He obviously don't care about me getting tired along the way.
I kinda wanted to go with him cause I missed him and haven't seen him all day, but then again I kinda didn't want to go cause I had just gotten off work and I was a little hot and tired.
I seem to be a tad bit jealous when my boyfriend makes compliments on other girls. Like if he says that a certain girl is fine. I get mad. I think the main reason why I get mad is cause I assume that he trying to get with the girl or that there is something on the girl that he likes that I don't have. Like for instance I am a slim girl. Alot of people say I have big boobs but I don't have a big bottie. So everytime I'm out with my boyfriend and I see a girl with a big butt walk by and see my boyfriend looking, I assume that he would want to get with her cause her butt big and not mine. I wasn't like this before! I don't even know when I got like this either, but I really don't like it. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I should be content, right?
I know he loves me and wants to be with me forever (he says) and wants to marry me. I really don't believe that he would cheat on me either, but sometimes I think twice about it cause he had this facebook with lots of female friends on it (i'm not one of them) and it makes me think that maybe he having relations with someone on there. It's not like he writes to them in front of me. It's really hard. I really need help on knowing how to change how I'm feeling. I don't want to be jealous, depressd and upset anymore.
I also asked him what was wrong with us starting off running together and if I get tired I'll walk? And then start back up. He said no stopping at all, so I said I wouldn't be able to do that and stayed home. He obviously don't care about me getting tired along the way.
There does appear to be some red flags. He should be more considerate and understanding. You'll have to talk things out with him, but it seems like a bigger problem than just running together.
Sounds like you will need to work a little bit harder to have a better communication system in place.
he had this facebook with lots of female friends on it (i'm not one of them).
whoa... wait? do you have a facebook? have you requested him as a friend and he ignored it? I'm only asking because if that is the case, you may have a situation on your hands.
On the other hand, if you don't have a facebook/he doesn't get on much/you don't get on much or any combination of those I wouldn't worry.
but I don't have a big bottie. So everytime I'm out with my boyfriend and I see a girl with a big butt walk by and see my boyfriend looking, I assume that he would want to get with her cause her butt big and not mine. I wasn't like this before! I don't even know when I got like this either, but I really don't like it. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I should be content, right?
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