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Hello. I have a question. Its been roughly a year now that i broke up with my ex. I can say im okay now and ready to move on. Its time for me to get back into the game. I started flirting with some girls and its pretty exciting! My friend said that i should experience been a player like him.
He has been with lots of women just to have a good time and nothing serious. After he has got a women in bed, he doesnt contact them anymore after. He told me maybe i would like being a player. I was wondering if there is anything wrong with that and if i should test out this kind of lifestyle?
I was wondering if there is anything wrong with that and if i should test out this kind of lifestyle?
Wrong in this sense is an ethical concept, so you would have to answer that for yourself, but I believe the majority would say yes. More practically, such a course is likely to have increased risks for the following and is therefore undesirable:
Acquiring a sexually transmitted disease.
Accidental pregnancy and the resulting financial burden.
Meeting a woman who once loved and left would make your misery or death her life goal (or possibly her family members).
Waking up missing a kidney or other significant organ.
Hello. I have a question. Its been roughly a year now that i broke up with my ex. I can say im okay now and ready to move on. Its time for me to get back into the game. I started flirting with some girls and its pretty exciting! My friend said that i should experience been a player like him.
He has been with lots of women just to have a good time and nothing serious. After he has got a women in bed, he doesnt contact them anymore after. He told me maybe i would like being a player. I was wondering if there is anything wrong with that and if i should test out this kind of lifestyle?
Let me ask you something.
Would you be okay with a girl doing it to you? Having sex with you then never contacting you again?
Your friend isn't a player, he's a loser. So it's your choice.
Would you be okay with a girl doing it to you? Having sex with you then never contacting you again?
Your friend isn't a player, he's a loser. So it's your choice.
Wrong analogy, it shows that you're thinking like a girl lol. Yes he would probably like that, it's basically what he is looking for. Heck, I would like it if the girl sleept with me but didn`t call me back (I wouldn`t do the contrary though).
His friend isn`t technically a loser, but most probably a dumba$$.
I had the option of becoming a player, but it takes a lot of integrity not to become one.
There is practical reason for it though. If you make a girl pregnant and she doesn't want to make an abortion, what do you do? You become the father of an unwanted child. I'm helping one girl friend who is pregnant, and I can tell you, it's not pretty at all.
Do I open up my life once more just to prove a point? Okay fine, I will.
OP, I am female so I guess the word player doesn't apply,but back in the day, before I became who I am now, I slept around a bit. I wasn't looking for love, because back then I didn't think it existed. I wasn't looking for a relationship, because that would only hold me back from doing what I wanted and who I wanted to do. I just wanted to have fun and I hurt a lot of people along the way.
Paxe, you said that I was thinking like a girl, that most guys wouldn't mind having a woman that just wanted sex and then never called again. That's not true of most men. In fact, my experience is that most men want more then just a one night stand, I had the stalkers to prove it.
The point is, I realized that what I was doing was not only dangerous to my health and my well being, but it wasn't nice. If you mess around with people's feelings then you'll pay sooner or later.
I got lucky. I found a guy that wanted to be "just friends" first. We hung out, we had fun, and then he got under my skin. We've been together for half our lives, since we were 19, married for 14 years, two great kids. I was wrong, love does exist.
I can't change my past, but you can change your future. Being a player isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sooner or later you realize that you're just alone, that none of these girls really care about you, that a lot of them are using you just like you're using them. If you have any feelings at all, this won't go well.
Stick to who you are, a good guy. Date, have fun, but don't be a player.
Honestly, I might as well just right my biography and post it on here, then I can just say "see chapter 12, paragraph 2, the threesome story and why you shouldn't do it".
Do I open up my life once more just to prove a point? Okay fine, I will.
OP, I am female so I guess the word player doesn't apply,but back in the day, before I became who I am now, I slept around a bit. I wasn't looking for love, because back then I didn't think it existed. I wasn't looking for a relationship, because that would only hold me back from doing what I wanted and who I wanted to do. I just wanted to have fun and I hurt a lot of people along the way.
Paxe, you said that I was thinking like a girl, that most guys wouldn't mind having a woman that just wanted sex and then never called again. That's not true of most men. In fact, my experience is that most men want more then just a one night stand, I had the stalkers to prove it.
The point is, I realized that what I was doing was not only dangerous to my health and my well being, but it wasn't nice. If you mess around with people's feelings then you'll pay sooner or later.
I got lucky. I found a guy that wanted to be "just friends" first. We hung out, we had fun, and then he got under my skin. We've been together for half our lives, since we were 19, married for 14 years, two great kids. I was wrong, love does exist.
I can't change my past, but you can change your future. Being a player isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sooner or later you realize that you're just alone, that none of these girls really care about you, that a lot of them are using you just like you're using them. If you have any feelings at all, this won't go well.
Stick to who you are, a good guy. Date, have fun, but don't be a player.
Honestly, I might as well just right my biography and post it on here, then I can just say "see chapter 12, paragraph 2, the threesome story and why you shouldn't do it".
Shoot me now.
Technically, I said him and I would like girls sleeping with us and not calling back. I don't have any emotional problem so I can take the pain (or pleasure depending how you see it ). I wouldn't do it to other girls though, that's not who I am.
Btw, you had a threesome? Now THAT'S a story I want to hear.
Hmmm i guess im getting this all wrong. What is the difference between a player and a guy that dates for fun and knows how to impress a woman?
I definitely would like a girl that is committed but i guess i wouldnt mind sleeping with a girl with no commitment as long as its mutual and they arent looking for anything serious at all. How about protection? That can prevent pregnancy and stds.
Eventually i would want to settle down and find love but i dont know if i can sleep with a woman and not have feelings for her afterwards i just might end up with a heartbreak.
Speaking of threesomes, my ex was a twin and i had a threesome with her and her sister. Caused lots of problems afterwards but at first we thought it was a good idea. >_<
). I wouldn't do it to other girls though, that's not who I am. 
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