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Ok, dated her for almost 3 yrs and she gave me the whole she needs space thing. Which I might add seems pretty common on here. Anyway, there was no closure at all. I know that sounds stupid b/c obviously the space thing I mentioned is just an excuse. Just hear me out on this one. Oh yeah, its day 8 of NC. Its killing me!!! I was just wondering if there was any reason to call her and just straight out ask if its over over. Know what I mean? Its really not an excuse to call her believe me. Im having a hard time thinking I can go on, hanging on to a hope she might see she messed up. Would it be easier if I just heard she was dating another guy or something hell I dont know. I dont want it to be over, I dont want to hear her say its over but I think I need to. What do you think?
This is why I like talkin to you two. Anything I say just gets blasted if its not that I hate her and blah blah. Anyway, thanks. I do want her back. I guess the NC thing is the absolute best way, not to win her back, but to see if she really does love me and miss me. i dont know anything else to do. Is that truly the best thing. I dont mean best for healing but best to see hwo she really feels? Any kind of contact is out of the question at this point right? Not for me (YES i know this is for me for all of you out there) but just what i said above
Sometimes the best "closure" is being strong within yourself and who you are and realizing that others can't take that away.
I wouldn't bother contacting her because she evidently made up the 'need space' excuse to let you down easy and she may have had this 'friend' waiting and doesn't want you to know until it is too obvious to deny. So where is closure with someone who isn't honest within the closure. Closure is just an excuse for prolonging the inevitable and can be a bigger heartache in the long run cause it is like self abuse.
Yea, sadly it is the best course of action. I mean how about getting woken up at 3 this morning with a friend saying "I have good news and bad news" so me thinking it's not about my ex says "ok what is it?" and she says "Brianna(my ex) last kiss was you, but she also says she doesn't want to date you again on the survey" I just didn't even reply to the text. People like that make me very angry, it's like thanks. I was moving on, but thanks for pushing me 10 steps back
Yeah, and see its so easy b/c i dont know you and your ex. So its easy for me to say just dont worry about it. But you cant! That is pretty dumb though and she might have sent it to get a response from you who knows. Just dont send anything back.
Yea, cuz me and her agreed when we broke up to still stay on each others friends list so we could be "mature" so I was like ok whatever...I don't look at her myspace or her bulletins strictly for that reason. I'm not going to give her the upperhand in responding to something as childish as a survey that I know she put up strictly to try and get a rise out of me. it won't work, I mean she used to put bulletins up about her last text that made her smile "no comment" and crap like that, that's why I stopped reading them. It would only make me want to text her and find out if she missed me
Sometimes I just wanna call and be like "what the hell is going on here." "Is this it, I'm fine with it if it is the end, but I just want to know for sure so I can fully move on." Is that so bad to do?
Yea, just take it as she has ended it completely. This way you can start to move on and if she comes back then deal with the problems then. But don't open yourself back up, its hard but we can get through this.
What about valentines day..I might make this a post. Its coming up in less than a month. And no Im not getting her anything haha. But what about a text or something. Would it have more of an impact if I didnt send anything? Im sure somewhere in her mind she will be thinkin about me. Even if its wondering if im gonna send anything or not.
no sending anything. no texting. no calling. NOTHING!
don't do this to create an "impact" on her...because if it doesn't have an impact, you'll be sorely disappointed. do this so that you can feel better and move on with your life.
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