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Gilligan1968 · #1 Mar 7, 2007, 09:17 AM

I have a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating on me and it's a strong gut feeling too! I want to know what questions I can ask him in a around about way, can anyone help me?

Gilligan1968 · Mar 7, 2007, 12:34 PM

I should be old enough to know better but guess I'm not (39). The gut feeling is....I look on his cell phone at his text messaging and he has been texting another woman (married at that) (who I know) and they have been doing this for some time now. Then last night he didn't come home from work til late and I looked on his phone again but checked the out-going and in-coming calls and there's a number on there that isn't saved. I have been trying to call it by using *67 but the cell phone is shut off. I am going to keep trying that number though...I'm getting too old for high school games!

IVATODOROVA · Mar 7, 2007, 12:35 PM

I will try to answer to this question because I cheated on my boyfriend-twice.the first time he didn't know anything because he was in the army but the second time he knew.and it happened so stupid.the other boy was calling me,i was hiding me phone every time when i was with my boyfriend,i always was saying that i am busy or something else everytime he wanted to see me.so nobody is that good at lying.so you will know if he is really cheating on you because i guess he will do the same things that i did. but don't spend your time thinking about this.i think that is the best advice that i can give.you will know for sure if something like this is happening because he will just be different .
why don't you just talk to him and ask if there is something wrong and if he doesn't want tobe with you anymore just to tell you.
bECauSE I DON'T THINK that you want somebody that is not honest with you.
good luck

Gilligan1968 · Mar 7, 2007, 12:46 PM

Thank you for honesty, I really appreciate it but he's a hard-headed person, he has this attitude that when things don't go his way, it's everyone else's fault and never his.

IVATODOROVA · Mar 7, 2007, 01:18 PM

you have to be really tough. i don/t know if you feel comfortable in this relationship.i think that you really have to think about this.i am not the person to tell you what to do cause i amm only 21

but at least u can talk to him .what did he do so u are suspecting him in cheating? is it something serious ro no? but still you are the person that knows him best and my advice- don't tell hhim that u think he is cheating on you but you can really notice things like strange calls ,messages or when u ask him 'who called' he doesn't want to answer or many times u have no idea where he is or he doesn't answer your call-simple things like this...

Gilligan1968 · Mar 8, 2007, 04:55 AM

I DO have a feeling that he knows that I know about his calls, only because I check his cell phone and I also have a feeling that he want's me to find out because other wise, why would he leave his cell phone on?! Right now I'm playing him, when he's late or is acting different, I don't ask him anything and I believe it makes him think, "why isn't she asking?", and he voluntarily tells me why but I don't get upset or mad at him and That makes him wonder, so in other words, I'm playing with his head like he's trying to do with mine. I am a strong person, anyone can tell you that and I'm not about to have him change that and maybe he doesn't want to either, who knows......

jonalisa · Mar 8, 2007, 05:16 AM

I can only speak from my experience. If you really feel that he is cheating, he probably is.



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